I mention sex toys briefly in my Surviving Hormone Therapy sessions, and sometimes someone asks more detailed questions which generates a deeper dive in to them. At one recent session, I invited a psychosexual therapist to join me and she brought several along.
At the simple end, you have plain cock rings, but they probably aren't going to be of interest if you can't get an erection (although very useful to make weak erections firmer). Vibrating cock rings would be the next thing up from that, and these are rings with one or two captive miniature "bullet" vibrators. A problem might be the rings would be too big to stay on a flaccid penis.
There are vast numbers of vibrators which are of dildo/penis/wand form, which can be used against the penis, and for some people, are also erotic used in other areas. Wands can have attachments, including penis tubes. Larger surface flat attachments are sometimes called massagers.
There are also products which are male masturbators, and some of these will work with a flaccid penis, such as the Guybrator. That has some remote control models, so you could have your partner control it. (This is an area known as teledildonics, although that's more often used to refer to controlling a vibrator across the Internet which the Guybrator can't do.) It also has Duo models with an additional separately controlled clit vibrator, although the whole thing vibrates so much I don't know how effective separate control of the two components is. It's not quiet - I'm sure you could hear it in a neighbouring bedroom!
Not all guys enjoy vibrators. In some cases, they can induce numbing before you get to orgasm which then makes orgasm unlikely, or tissue swelling in an effort to get enough vibration to be sufficiently arousing, which is probably not good for you. Getting mentally aroused as well will help, rather than relying just on the vibrator. I never found the bullet vibrators powerful enough to achieve orgasm, but some men do.
Like many things, you'll have to try them for yourself. There are a wide range, and it might very well be that whatever you try first isn't effective, but something else might be.
You might also find combining them with an erection produced by a pump and constriction ring is worth a try, even if you might have dismissed using the pump for penetrative sex.
Whatever you do, have fun experimenting...
Edited by member 22 May 2021 at 09:37
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