So sorry to hear of your diagnosis.
I'm just recovering from having a robotic radical prostatectomy.
My journey began in November 2019, had prostate checked after reading a men's health post, and had blood test, (psa result was 5.6 if I remember rightly) had a repeat blood test (increased to 5.6 or 5.8) was sent for mri which showed an area of concern on 1 side of prostate, had biopsy which confirmed cancer 3+4.
Was put in active surveillance, but I felt it needed to be removed, so spoke to nurses who booked me back in to see consultant.
Talked through the possible side effects, erectile disfunction and urinary incontinence was the 2 that worried me the most at my age (41 at that time).
Booked in for surgery, and all went smoothly, hated the feeling of the catheter, and psychologically effected me as I felt unclean and very uncomfortable, but it was all psychological, it didn't hurt, you can't really feel it, it's just weird.
Had a semi hard on after 2 days, quite painful as the catheter was still in situ. (lol) but was over the moon as i had been told it takes months or years to get any movement down there.
The scars have healed really well, and can hardly notice them. (3 small incisions, 1 about an inch long and 1 about 2 or 3 inches long)
After 3 or 4 weeks, I'd changed from the to well type pads and was on a small thin shield type pad that pops into the front of your pants, can't notice it, even when wet.
I use 1 pad a day.
Had psa test and it's untraceable.
So far, I'm over the moon with the way things have progressed.
They sent the prostate off for testing after it's removal and it turned out it was quite an aggressive form of PC, so a good job I didn't stay on active surveillance, but everyone is different, a friend of mine has had it nearly 20 years and is still on active surveillance and is still a 3 + 3.
So consider your options carefully, and talk it over with your family and loved ones.
If you need to talk, just ask.