Don't be so sure that they know the answer to that! As far as the medics are concerned we are just a load of scans, test results and numbers. They look in a book and if this scan result is X they prescribe Y, then you get a side effect and they add Z and so it goes on until you end up like a maraca.
Don't take this in anyway as anti medicine or anti science. The procedure that is followed is the best way of getting the desired outcome, though no one has bothered to find out what that desired outcome is.
A friend of mine recently died of a different cancer. He at least knew what his desired outcome was so was able to choose his treatment accordingly.
I think I will give a short summary of his life story so you can see why he chose his desired outcome. It may help others realise they have a choice and make a decision.
Names and events changed to protect the innocent:
Fred was born during the war worked as an engineer and ended up running a small business. He was happily married and had a small family (who have now taken over the business). He had a comfortable life and enough time and money for hobbies.
I met him in his early 60s
In his mid 60s his wife died of cancer, it was reasonably quick. He mourned her but got on with his life. He then acquired a kidney disease I don't know the full story, he was out of action for about a year, and semi-retired from the business. I think he realised he had to make the most of his life. He had a string of girlfriends, several posh cars, and regularly went to motorrace meetings (not my cup of tea). When I last met him about three months before he died he looked drawn and ill. I asked if he was going to Goodwood race. He said no, I've been there 10 times if I go this time I will be in a wheel chair, I know my friends will do everything for me, but I won't enjoy it, I want to remember it the way I used to enjoy it.
He died a couple of weeks ago. He had pain medication, and hospital treatment to relieve symptoms, but refused chemo, etc. Because of his wife's and his own previous illness he knew what medicine, could and couldn't do. His decision about Goodwood was the same decision he made for his end of life for the same reason.
I am glad I managed to see Fred that last time we were outdoors sitting around a bonfire and he was as happy as ever. Their are probably ten occasions in my life where I have learnt a life lesson, some as early as school days, Fred's Goodwood statement is added to that list. His decision was right for him, no one else; they can make their own decision or just go with the flow. Doesn't matter the destination is the same, try and enjoy the journey.
I started typing this before the other replies, they are far more practical help.
Edited by member 13 Nov 2021 at 10:12
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