I am writing this in the hope that it gives others diagnosed with aggressive PC some encouragement and thoughts for how to cope.
It was this time, 9 years ago, that my journey towards a G9/T3 diagnosis started. No symptoms, just a raised PSA identified during a routine medical. I thought my world had ended. I didn’t even think I would be around long enough to justify replacing a worn-out pair of shoes and was convinced our Labrador would outlive me (we lost him last year).
I have always been a glass half empty kind of person so listening to advice to ‘think positively’ and ‘take each day as it comes’ has not helped me at all. I think it’s fair to say that my mood has been pretty low over the past 9 years but rather than wait for the inevitable, I have taken some drastic steps. For example: -
- We sold our house soon after the diagnosis and moved somewhere with a much larger garden. Whilst gardening is not my passion, it has certainly kept me occupied and is a serene and peaceful place to be during the spring and summer months
- I gave up red meat – just lost the taste for it after my RP and immediately started feeling healthier
- I gave up full time work 4 years ago and now work 2 to 3 days a week in a self-employed capacity. The lack of stress and the additional free time has been a game changer
- I have done a couple of bucket list holidays
- I did some serious financial planning to ensure my wife was better provided for
- And more recently, we bought a campervan and have been enjoying lots of time away with our new puppy
On reflection, I think I did these things to take control of the situation and to try and keep myself as mentally strong as possible. I don’t think these changes have made me a happier person, but they have allowed me to make new happy memories and to give me the confidence to plan ahead a little which is not something I would have dared to do in the early years.
Sure, ED has been an ongoing issue and continues to upset me, but I have been blessed with an understanding and loving wife of 39 years. I am now on Prostap and Enza so often get the feeling that my little bit of tarmac is running out but, if the past 9 years have taught me anything it would be not to dwell on my diagnosis, to take control of the things I can and to do things that help strengthen me mentally and give me something to look forward to.
Edited by member 24 Jan 2022 at 18:18
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