This forum is for anyone affected by PCa and that means family members just as much as patients. Everyone who has just been diagnosed (or family member) is pretty terrified at first. But once you get more knowledge and read stories of people who are still around 15-20 years after diagnosis you will realise this is not necessarily a big problem.
Now I don't want to detract from some of our members who are going through tough times, but for most people diagnosed with PCa it is just an inconvenience and for a few it will be the cause of death, but many years later.
I'm a G9 myself, but they seem to think I'm cured so I'm happy to go with that.
The PSA figure can give some clue as to whether this is going to be serious, and of course the bone scan etc. In the mean time you need to stop thinking the worst because this is so unlikely to be as bad as you think.