Sorry you find yourself here Colin.
As already pointed out we can only give our personal stories as everyone is different. My husband opted for surgery (quite a bit older than you), I wouldn’t say it was easy for him but he also didn’t find really difficult either. I think it’s the mental side that we both struggled with more to begin with. He really rested up well for 12 weeks after the op although still went out for evenings and doing walks etc
He was T3a Gleason 4+3. Even though we were told it had spread outside of the prostate into a lymph node and possibly bone, he still wanted his prostate removed and then be able to deal with the rest later. They did start him on HT which he had for 6 months, he really didn’t like being on it and stopped it as soon as op was done. His post op histology changed to T2 Gleason 4+5=9
They took 14 lymph nodes and the bone lesion we were told later was benign. His PSA is currently <0.025 and we’re hoping it will stay there. We know RT will possibly have to come in time though.
Continence is absolutely fine, ED is still a work in progress, although he’s not putting any work into that progress at the moment 🤦🏻♀️ so we’re bound to not be seeing any results yet.
Best of luck with your decision