ED post op

Hi,

RARP 16th September.

Same. The surgeon saved the nerves on both sides of the prostate. However, still no erection other than a bit more blood flow when about to orgasm. Not been prescribed Viagra or similar yet might ask soon. 

Keeping hopeful though, decided not to wait for the NHS, bought a pump for training purposes. Trying to Keep that blood flowing to the old fella. It does take a bit of practice, but it's now part of my daily routine. Although given the number of times men have stirrings throughout the day should probably do this more often. 

Not happy to share the pump with the wife though. It's all a bit mechanical, but using ones imagination during intimacy keeps the fires burning which is good for mental health.

Don't give up, from what I read on here can take a lot of time, but even then you might never have a meaningful erection again. Have you been in contact with your clinical team to see if you can get a referral?

Terrance, I was slightly older than you when I had supposedly non nerve sparring surgery, my wife is 16 years younger than me. Talk to each other and have fun trying to find a solution. We mastered the technique of flaccid insertion and she has the knack of getting me where she wants me. It hasn't been easy of late as she is going through the change. 

Never give up.

Thanks Chris 

Hi Terrance. You do have to fight for a lot of things (eg Tadalafil) at my NHS Trust but getting a pump was straight forward. I spoke to my clinical nurse specialist and she wrote to my GP telling them to prescribe me a pump. Might be worth an ask. It's probably a bit too early days to expect a reaction from the Viagra. 5 mg daily Tadalafil to improve blood flow and nerve repair might be a better option at this stage, if  your Trust will prescribe it. Chris

Ask for VAT exemption if you buy your own. You're buying it as a medical appliance (zero rated), not a sex toy (20% VAT).