Orgasms without ejaculation

Jimmy, all sounds a bit complicated. My orgasms have been a lot better since prostate removal over 8 years ago. Some guys describe them as too sensitive to the point of being painful.

For me ,on a scale of one to ten, self service is 5. Assisted service is around 7. Assisted service in the shower will shower gel is 10. Vaginal intercourse is somewhere around 3000.

Thanks Chris 

I describe our vaginal love making as out of this world, we have to keep the bedroom windows shut. When asked about sexual enjoyment after prostatectomy etc, I joke it was worth have the prostate removed just to have a better orgasm.

Where do I attribute that ,it is a natural human interaction ? 

The scholars will no doubt contribute to the following. My orgasms are a lot better and more enjoyable than they were before prostate removal. I can only assume the swelling of the penis reduces the sensitivity of pleasure sensors. A tight pump constriction ring make my penis cold and less sensitive. The durex rings recommended by CJ mean for me, that the erection doesn't last as long but the sensitivity is far greater. CJ may throw some light of the intensity of orgasms as he did regain full erections after surgery, I never have.

We also use a flaccid insertion technique, this is were I first experienced the out of the world orgasm and my wife has a knack of getting me in the spot she wants me. The need to use lubrication to achieve insertion does probably increase the pleasure.

Before surgery I do remember experimenting will lubes and found too much lube decreased enjoyment. An old friend used to say ejaculation is 95 percent imagination and 5 percent friction.

It is probably nine years to the day I got my cancer diagnosis and I never imagined I would be discussing information like this.

Thanks Chris 

I had my prostatectomy in July 21. My first stage of rehab, as for many of us, was the vacuum pump. I found that although it gave me a really solid erection the tightness of the ring meant I had almost no sensation during intercourse and certainly didn’t experience orgasm. After some intense online research I discovered a site recommending male vibrators and that has been a great help. My first dry orgasm with the vibratory, my first orgasm of any sort for 6 months, was of body shaking intensity but since then they have varied which TBH is just as it always was. I am now only using Cialis/ Viagra for intercourse and have experienced orgasms either in the vagina or assisted at the end. I still use the pump as physio and very occasionally use the vibrator with maybe an 8/10 result. One of the good things about the vibrator was that you can use it when flaccid and sometimes got me to an erection before orgasm but not always 

Yes, definitely my orgasm strength varies - and I am not sure that is really new. What is new is that orgasms are sometimes more difficult to achieve. Being blessed with both solo and partnered sex, I can report that this variation applies to both situations. If anything I find that penetrative sex suffers more as a result of my less reliable hardness - what somebody called the "concertina effect" means less stimulation from thrusting when I am not fully hard, whereas manual or oral stimulation can take that into account.

About losing ejaculation - I was interested to hear how physically you feel this. For me, it is more of a mental thing - I do miss that fountain of life coming out of me. But I am definitely able to have orgasms at least as exciting as ever before. Some are probably even more intense, partly because they are a bit rarer at least at times. On solo orgasms, the absence of ejaculate makes it possible to self-pleasure in situations where previously the mess would have made it impractical....

The main thing for me is stay with the bigger purpose: expressing libido, love of life (and if present, love of partner) - while finding new physical ways of accomplishing that.