Hi everyone, this is my first post here and I'm new to the group (F, 27).
Last year (June) my Dad (67) was diagnosed suddenly with advanced prostate cancer, following an onset of pain in his hip and pelvis. Upon multiple scans and tests, it was found to have spread to the bones and lymph nodes. He was given what I now know to be the standard diagnosis of around 2-5 years.
He continued with hormone therapy and radiotherapy, but by November he was told treatment was no longer working. Then December came around and the consultant looked at his disease progression and said the prognosis was now due to be 3-6 months.
Up until two weeks ago, despite a decrease in mobility and gradual increase in pain, my Dad was still managing to enjoy the daily habits of life. However, the sudden onset of a few days of excruciating pain in the night led my Dad into our nearby hospice for "pain management" - basically to try and get on top of the pain he is feeling. It has been the most horrific thing to witness.
However, the problem is that he's been in the hospice for 2 weeks now (we thought it would be a few days), and they have been unable to get on top of the pain. Nothing seems to be working, and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. We have no idea now when he'll be able to come back out again, and it is getting pretty desperate for my Dad, who is a very active, sociable and independent person but one that has no idea what is going to happen to him.
Does anyone have experience with this stage of advanced metastatic prostate cancer? It is so difficult because while the focus is on the pain, we have no idea where the disease itself is actually at. He doesn't appear to have started the "dying" process at all, yet the pain is just excruciating. I don't feel misled - just confused, as the hospice said he would be going in until the pain is under control and then he could go back to a normal life, but now I'm worrying that he won't come out again or ever be the same. It is so hard.
Any advice or support would be appreciated. X
Edited by member 23 Mar 2023 at 17:27
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