Hi Richard,
Well, there you have an alternative view and in the light of my experience one that I would not advocate. At about your dad's age, I had HIFU as salvage treatment for failed RT. However, my PSA began to rise gradually to the point that UCLH agreed to give me a Choline scan from which they thought I might have cancer in an Iliac Lymph Node as well as in my Prostate. Therefore, they just proposed to treat me with HT. (They gave me some anti flare tablets and a syringe of Zoladex, which I never started.) Instead, In view of the equivocal assessment of the Choline scan, I sent this to other major hospitals with whom I had a connection. All 3 considered the aforementioned Iliac Lymph Node was not cancerous. Furthermore, The Royal Marsden opined not to start HT and Heidelberg University Hospital suggested I have the 68 Gallium PSMA scan they had developed in conjunction with the dkfz (German Cancer Research Centre). I asked UCLH to give me this scan on the NHS but they refused so I paid for it elsewhere. It showed the only cancer was within my Prostate. Presented with this result, UCLH eventually and following my persistence, agreed to repeat HIFU.. This they did when I was 84 years of age. This year, following a recent mpMRI and following some 16 months of low and stable PSA, I was told by my Consultant that I am PCa free and in remission. I am hopeful to reach 97 or more to match or surpass my father's age at death.
My case is of course different to that of the OP's father, although there is doubt in scans here too. In a substantial number of varied cases the treatment plan has changed after PSMA. It could be that depending on what is seen and where, it may be possible to treat a few mets with precision RT or another form of treatment such as photodynamic therapy. There is nothing lost in investigating and if the PSMA scan can't be obtained on the NHS, it should be available somewhere at cost even though the tracer is in short supply. It's up to the individual. Some men get even more than 10 years on HT, albeit with varying side effects, but others very much less.
Interesting comment from National Library of Medicine
'Conventional imaging techniques like CT and MRI face significant restriction as they fail to detect lymph nodal lesions measuring smaller than 8 mm (2). It is not uncommon for MRI, more precisely for DWI, to be unable to differentiate infiltrated from non-metastatic lymph nodes and consequently, lymph nodal secondaries are missed, especially in high-risk and intermediate-risk patients (3). Furthermore, CT and MRI often fail to correctly identify non-PC lymphadenopathies. Similarly, BS is in many cases not specific enough with regards to bone findings in PC patients. In all these cases, PSMA PET(/CT) eventuates to better delineate or/and clarify the status of the disease' .