Lubrication/Menopause

Prostate cancer is a couples' disease. When there are discussions around re-establishing sex life following surgery or other treatments, the problems associated with menopause, particularly vaginal dryness, are hardly discussed. I asked my wife to make the following contribution which wives/partners who are experiencing menopausal symptoms might find useful. The lubrication she uses is ideal for all couples since with its use the man doesn't need to use any lubrication.

'A great discovery for us was a particular type of vaginal moisturiser called YES VM. At my age although I use Wellsprings Serenity Natural Progesterone Cream for Women (www.wellsprings-health.com), a plant-based hormone replacement cream, I was beginning to have vaginal dryness which was not fun. This amazing stuff can be found by googling www.yesyesyes.org.  I kid you not! It is organic, has no side effects and is better than KY jelly which is rather heavy. I am a really allergic and reactive type and if I can tolerate it so will most people. Do have a look.

Before finding this product, because after prostatectomy Pratap’s penis  no longer had its natural lubrication, he had to use a water-based lubricant like KY Jelly for our comfort. We found this quite unsatisfactory because either he ended up using too much (for my comfort) which he found too slippery to achieve an orgasm or too little which helped him but not too comfortable for me. But the introduction of YES VM solved the problem I could control the amount of lubricant I insert and he uses none. And by trial and error we have been able to control the level of lubricant to suit both of us, such that it is comfortable for me but not too slippery for him; win win! 

 For us we find that after loads of what used to be called back in the day, heavy petting, which is fun, (on our bed, best in the afternoon these days as often by night time I am tired) Pratap goes to our en-suite bathroom to pump himself up, during which time I use the individual one time use applicator of the YES VM and wait for him. It’s all fun and works for us anyway.