Hi Frank,
My first post here, so hope this helps if I can speak to some of your questions.
I was initially told I was "a bit young (60)" for radiotherapy and when diagnosed with PiRADS 4 with "suspicious of a minor T3a extension", was told that surgery was the most likely option.
Following the multidiscipline team meeting, I was offered either surgery (RALP) or HT/RT; the decision was up to me. That was hard to decide as I wasn't expecting it. They gave me 2 weeks to make a decision, and called me to see if I needed help in coming to a decision. The conversation with the MacMillan nurse was very helpful. I had done loads of my own research and got a bit lost in all the different trails of statistics and personal stories. In the end it came down to what two potential side effects I could put up with if I went with the surgery route. ED I thought I could live with, severe incontinence was not something I could live with. The chat with the nurse helped me to see this and I decided for the surgery. It helped that when I met the surgeon, he was very reassuring and answered all my questions thoughtfully and fully; this gave me confidence in him. Another part of my decision was being told I could have RT if required after the surgery, but I could not have surgery following HT/RT treatment.
I'm now just over 5 weeks post surgery. Recovery is slow and steady. I've read elsewhere of people being back to work after 2,4,6 weeks but I am some way from that. Surgeon said 6-8 weeks, and I think 8 weeks is realistic. Side effects: there was cancer in both sides of the nerve bundles so these were cut, I do have ED at present although taking some medication to try and improve this. It's early days and I see the surgeon late this week to get histology results and discuss matters.
Following surgery, you have a catheter in place, mine came out after 10 days. Then its like learning to potty train again. For me, right from the day of catheter removal I have had pretty good bladder control. There is the odd dribble when coughing, sneezing, blowing nose, standing up, uncrossing legs, but by and large I have good bladder control. I do use a pad, but its the smallest size and only one a day.
I was told to do the pelvic floor exercises before the operation which I did, and I do them every day post op. My control does seem to improve over the 5 weeks.
Things I want to ask the surgeon:
Why do I have internal intermittent pain between the two right incisions on my stomach. [The nurse told me everyone with RALP complains of this, but I havent read about it here].
Is it normal to have dull ache in testicles and end of penis when peeing?
What options do I have with ED? If the nerves were cut, does taking a viagra equivalent help?
Is it normal to have to pee serval times in the night after surgery, or is this just me? To be fair, the frequency is slowly decreasing and this was an issue before surgery.
Why am I fatigued? I am unable to get up before 9am, although 4 weeks ago this was 11am.
It's early days yet, but overall I am glad I did the surgery. I have read other stories here where the recovery is not as easy as mine.
I hope that is useful, and if anyone else wants to weigh in on my questions, feel free.
Mike