This is new, incontinence

So, I do my squeezys three times a day without fail, and am still very incontinent 11 weeks post RARP.  But now, I can be sitting at my desk working, and apparently, I am slowly leaking while sitting there and have no knowledge of it.  Then, I get up for some reason or another, and my absorbent underwear is soaked as are my jeans or shorts between my legs.  It happens most often when sitting, but I leak more when standing or walking, often emptying my bladder between my chair and the loo.  The emptying while walking is not new, but the leaking while sitting is very new and quite embarrassing.  I have my three month appointment in two weeks so I guess it is one more thing to bring up.

Richard

Hi Basketcase, it's still early days for you. I am 2 years post op and except for the occasional drip pretty much continent. I only wear a thin pad when I go out for confidence. But at your stage I was the same as you and wondering if I would ever be continent. For me, the worst thing was not so much the loss of control but the lack of awareness. I would look down at my trousers and think 'did I do that?'. Or I would suddenly feel the weight of my pad when I thought I had been doing well. I did not find Squeezy helpful because for me it was just an elaborate alarm clock and metronome. The most important thing is to be sure that you are doing your PF exercises properly and for that I went to a physio specialising in male continence. She also confirmed the strength of my PF muscle. Two things to remember. It takes time for the PF muscle to strengthen and you need to take care you don't overdo it as that will set you back. Also, the PF muscle does not control your continence. It only supports the sphincter that does and that sphincter, now working without the help of one that you have had removed during the op, has been severely disturbed and has much to 'relearn'. Apologies if you already know all this. It's distressing as you are, but you will get there in time. 

Peter