Hi Ned
Probably a bit late to this conversation. But I will post my details to help you make decisions.
Age: 69, will be 70 in June 2024
Got first raised PSA OF 23 about 1 yr ago when had a urinary tract infection. Treated with course of antibiotics and PSA monitored. Went down to 6.7 after 4 weeks and then 5.5 by July 2023. Then a 6 month PSA went up again to 7.1 in November. My GP advised a referral to Churchill Urology dept in Oxford. MRI done in early Dec was positive. Biopsy done just after xmas showed positive cores in left and right of prostate graded as Gleason score 7 (4+3) with grade group 3 prostate cancer.
Like others, the choice was either RARP Robot assisted radical prostatectomy) or RT/HT (Radiation/Hormone treatment). There are side effects to both but possibly what swayed me was that if you have RARP first and recurrence is detected in the future, then RT/HT is a possible second line of treatment. If you opt to have RT/HT first, then surgery is much more difficult as a second line of treatment. I am lucky to have no other concurrent health issues so considered myself a good anaesthetic risk (I am a retired veterinary surgeon so reasonably savvy about health issues) so not worried about the general anaesthetic.
So I opted for RARP and that was done on 9th March. I was amazed how well I felt within a few days. Yes there is some discomfort after surgery but I stopped taking any painkillers after 3 days. Urethral catheter was removed at 7 days post surgery and I have not had an incontinence issues. I had already stocked up on pads and incontinence pants and have used none so far.
The surgeon tried to do some nerve sparing esp on one side and to date have had no spontaneous erections. However after reading others comments on this forum, I have started myself on 20mg Cialis twice weekly as from 3 days ago. I have also started to use a penis pump twice daily for a few minutes just to try to get some penile rehabilitation. I know there are very expensive Somaerect pumps at over £200 but I just bought a £19.99 one from Love Honey. It is simple and functional and seems to do the job.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/penis-pumps/p/basics-textured-penis-pump-7.5-inches-/a20955g28673.html
I have just used it very gently twice a day and it seems to gradually inflate the penis and makes it reasonably firm for a few minutes. Reading other posts, it seems that early penile rehabilitation with a penis pump may help reduce the chances of longterm Erectile Dysfunction issues. I don't think it has any harmful effects as long as one is sensible with its use.
I could not drive a car for 2 weeks and I will be careful with lifting objects for another 4 weeks. Otherwise life has returned to probably 98% normality less than 3 weeks after surgery. I take as much exercise as possible and have just come back from a brisk 3 mile walk with my dog.
So far I am very pleased I have gone down the surgery route. I have a follow up appointment with my surgeon at the end of May where he will presumably give me the result of histology on the removed prostate and I will get a PSA test a few days before that appointment.
Good luck with your own treatment pathway whatever you decide.