Hi Lola. I was diagnosed early last year at age 59 with T3N1M0 and Gleeson 8. I can tell you it is a big shock when you have no symptoms. PSA was around 120 but no mets found on PET PSMA scan. Had spread to seminal vesicles and two local lymph nodes. So in this first year they have thrown the book at it! No surgery as not contained in the Prostate, instead hormone therapy (zoladex), chemotherapy (to mop up any micro mets) and Radiotherapy over Xmas and January. To be honest, a pain but not so bad and an opportunity to learn what things are really important in your life!! Psa now down below 0.06 and recovering well from treatment symptoms!! Strength and fitness not too bad, but have lost some muscle mass. Make sure your other half keeps active! Try not to over Google and stay positive. Don't wish away the time until the next Oncologist meeting or treatment, enjoy every day instead. Best of luck to you both, all will be fine. David