Thought I'd chime in to this forum and share my experience. My PSA was 4.8 when we decided to take it out knowing it was inevitable anyway. I was 58 and reasonably fit. The surgeon told me he could likely save one nerve and my recovery could be better.
I had the op and went through the sheer hell that most men on this forum went through. Funnily enough I never leaked at night. The incontinence was terrible for maybe a month then it started to come right, albeit very slowly. But I was noticing improvements every week.
I did, and still do kegels 4 months before my op 3 times a day. I recently bought a device that doe's it for me now and it does like 300 exercises in 10 minutes. This played a huge part in my recovery.
ED was the new normal, or at least that's what we thought.
My wife and I accepted that this was the price to pay to be cancer free. Skip on a few months and I am 99.9% leak free and wear no pads. I gave up cafine which helped me so much. It was noticeable 2 weeks after quitting it. I sometimes leak a drip if I fart haha, but that's about it. If I cross my legs I'm fine.
If you guys leak, please at least try giving up coffee and tea. Drink decaf, you'll get use to it. It might help.
Anyway, I started using bimix and bam, I was back. Yeh it's a bit sore but it hugely repaired my depressive state and made me feel like a bloke again. The urine leaking on climax was a horror story but we worked out if she got on top it never happened. That'll do. If I go for another position I wear a condom. Leaking doesn't happen every time. In reckon in another 6 months it'll be normal.
So I started vedafil daily and then 1/2 a Cialis every now and then. I haven't used the bimix for months and don't need to thankfully.
Now we can have sex without too much drama. Sometimes I use a Cialis but only half and not all the time.
I talk to men all the time about this disease, and I know not everyone gets a good result. But all I can say is I exercise regularly, stopped cafine, and doing kegels has brought me back to 99.9% of where I was 18 months ago.
I am cancer free. Job done.