Hi Terriex,
I was T3b like your dad but with PSA 36 when diagnosed. I was terrified at the time, but just over 2 years down the line since treatment started I am now undetectable and finished treatment. So, there is plenty of Hope, try and stay strong for your dad, he is so lucky to have a daughter like you to look after him😊
Mine had just broken though to the Seminal Vesicles (like your dad perhaps) so surgery was rule out. I went down the HT/RT route. The RT was a doddle, the HT for me has not been good as I had every side effect going😩, but some people seem to get off lightly and I have no idea why. As Andy says I suspect surgery will be ruled out, but both treatments are likely to have similar CURATIVE outcomes.
As everyone will tell you, the waiting around for tests and results is by far the worst part of this journey, just try and keep you and your dad as busy and active as possible to stop your minds from wandering. I would avoid Dr Google…there is so much knowledge on this site as well as the Specialist nurses who you can phone anytime.
Do as many nice things with your dad as possible during the waiting just to show you both that life goes on, give him some treats(not forgetting yourself of course!) . I have found this really helps keep my mood better.
I wish you BOTH all the best on your journey.
Derek