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Posted 16 Nov 2024 at 20:41

My Dad was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer 2 years ago.  At that time he was also told that it had spread to his bones.  He is due for a CT within the next few weeks which will provide more info.  He's currently not eating much, sleeping a lot, not communicating and is mostly incoherent.  My question is what we can do to support him at this time? Thank you for your support.

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Posted 17 Nov 2024 at 11:27

Not much to go on here.

What's his PSA history?

What treatments has he had?

What other medical conditions has he got?

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Posted 17 Nov 2024 at 20:03

Sorry to hear about your dad's condition. My wife's uncle in the same situation. It is sad to watch him slipping away. All they can do is stay positive, stay strong for him. As unnerving as it sounds, they hear everything around them..

 

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Posted 18 Nov 2024 at 20:07

Thank you both for your response.  I'm grateful. I haven't got his PSA numbers.  He was on HRT tablets and jabs but the tablets have recently been stopped because they were deemed as not longer being effective.  My Dad has a diagnosis of heart failure and is on multiple medications to assist with that.  The heart failure diagnosis is over 15 years old and he has an ICD.  Ultimately, I would just like some guidance and suggestions as to how I can support my Dad and help him feel comfortable.  Thank you.

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Posted 19 Nov 2024 at 17:46
So sorry to learn your Dad is unwell.

My lovely dad had cancer spread to his bones, which affected his mobility, he also had atrial fibrillation and other issues. In terms of support I arranged a cleaner for his home, did his food shopping and made him meals for his freezer too. He lost his appetite so we encouraged little and often. He was very keen to stay in his own home so I arranged a social care needs assessment which lead to various aids such as raised toilet seat a fall alarm a walking trolley aid etc.

sadly we both had to accept his need for nursing care eventually and palliative care, dad was resistant to pain relief initially fearful of sedation but the nurses managed to control pain and enable him to chat etc in between his many naps until very near the end.

We even took a little fridge into his room so he could enjoy a glass of wine or a gin with his visitors.I was fortunate I was able to take a break from work and spent as much time as I could with Dad during the last months of his life. Dad had anxiety so that was managed along with physical pain.

I can only suggest you spend as much time as you can with him, be guided by him what he wants and needs, and accept all the help you can get for him ( not that it’s easy gettimg help) look after yourself too x

 
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