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How come all these side affects are ''glossed over'' by the medical profession

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Posted 12 Jan 2025 at 10:53

Mack - sorry this doing your head in so much. The advice of counselling sounds good advice - although it’s not something I’ve personally explored, it sure does help to talk about this stuff. Since my first raised PSA, I’ve been quick to mention to people what I’m going through and, in doing so, have discovered several others in my locality going through similar and who I have gone for a coffee with. Nobody has exactly the same diagnosis and personal situation but I have found it incredibly useful to understand and share experiences.

I think I might represent a more silent majority who emerge relatively unscathed from early radical treatment - and you don’t always hear that. It’s worth voicing that here because this forum (as Adrian points out) may lean towards those experiencing issues.

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Posted 12 Jan 2025 at 12:22

Hi,

I am having therapy, literally from the word go, I would hate to know where I would be without it.

My therapist is not a 'cancer' specialist - But I am comfortable speaking to him and trust him.

Should I be seeking out a therapist - specialising in cancer?

Thanks to all for the support

Mack Mack

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Posted 12 Jan 2025 at 14:58

Mack , I recently had some radiotherapy at one of the Genesis care centres and they offered 5 free sessions. I don't recall the sessions focusing on the cancer it was more about attitudes to situations.

As already said, forums like this do have more people on it with problems ,than people without problems.

Again as said, side effects are not guaranteed to happen to everyone. I was initially 99 percent dry a couple of weeks after surgery. As regards intercourse with a flaccid penis, I describe my orgasms as out of this world, and the wife has no complaints.

I am fortunate to have a pro active approach to life's situations , I don't worry about things I can't change, I look for solutions.

Best wishes for the future with whatever route you take.

Thanks Chris

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Posted 12 Jan 2025 at 17:57

Mack,

i know it is hard not to think of the side effects, but literally thousands and thousands of people throughout the UK, US, Mexico, Europe, the world undergo annually treatment of Radiation, and Surgery for prostate cancer successfully and how many countless millions over the years. These forums as have often been said will tilt towards unfavorable and look at how few members of all who have experienced prostate cancer are actually on this site and post. That means there are literally millions that are at the minimum content with where they are. That is not to take away anything from the people who are experiencing side effects on this forum but often time these forums are where those people go to share and exchange and offer and give and get advice and ideas to help each other which is immensely helpful. This site helped me prepare for my surgery and the possibility of how to handle my side effects. On a scale of side effects from 1 to 10 with 10 being the worst, please don’t accept 10 as your outcome. Clearly it seems incontinence and ED are two of your biggest concerns and for likely everyone are. They were for me. I tried to keep a perspective that if you read about any surgery or treatment for about any condition a percentage of people will have serious side effects from having your tonsils out, to shoulder surgery to foot surgeries. Also if you take any medicine at all, read the prescription bottle of all the side effects. It means people do get those side effects but not everyone. You take the medicine or surgery to get better, killing the cancer will get you better. I went thinking what about the worst and how would that be but also realizing more than likely the worst could be a 5 on the scale, but over time things should improve. I was actually so more favorable than I anticipated. I had purchased diapers , pads, pullups in preparation and immediately began wearing them after my catheter came out. Fortunately it turned out I was fine. I did learn that at night putting the diaper on that I called it was actually quite comfortable. I was prepared that I could be wearing them. These are not what I believed them to be. One could not tell you had it on. These were for worst case and although some who use many, they work throughout the day for many working, even in the worst case they are carrying on in their jobs and now if its only half bad their are pads and liners again in the beginning I also to be safe was wearing those. All women have lived their lives wearing pads during their time of the month and have survived and worked. I always tried to keep that perspective. Most incontinence is temporary over 6 months usually. On the ED side you will also hear about all the ways you can still have sex with implants, medications and other aids to help restore yourself. Accept that it likely won’t be the same, but you and your wife can still enjoy each other, its not just cuddling you are left too. Again I am not where I was but way way better than the worst. Look around know that you are being given a chance to eradicate your cancer and be around for your loved ones.

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Posted 12 Jan 2025 at 18:30

Hi Mack,

Only just joined this thread as I’ve been away for a while. I was one of the unlucky ones and suffered quite debilitating side effects in HT, At one point I struggled to get out of a chair. I had no real issues with RT…some short term effects with urgency but that soon passed. I’ve always been of the opinion that if you can have RT without HT then it is a much more difficult decision to make between that and surgery. your are quite young so that come into play with your decision. i would have chosen surgery but it was off the table because I was T3B.

Yes, there are side effects from whatever treatment you have, some get off lightly but others have their QOL affected to various degrees. Despite these side effects, life goes on and you learn to adapt…and I think. Most men do. For example I have zero libido(although signs it is just starting to come back) but I can still have sex even though I developed Peyronie’s disease. Zero libido didn’t really bother me…I’d rather just have had a nice cup of coffee🤣🤣🤣, but once I got going I could still have strong orgasms. I can’t imagine what it’s like to have libido but not be able to get an erection and have sex, but the guys I know from Maggies who are in this position, just deal with it and there are things available to help. I think the fact that we are our treatments have hopefully saved our lives helps you come to terms with any side effects, and if you have the support behind you, it makes a huge difference.

I wish you luck whatever you decide to do.

Derek

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Posted 15 Jan 2025 at 16:44

Mack

Was a bit like you and went on AS for quite a while. Bit the bullet in the end and to be honest after a bit of recovery time I was fine. Have a click on my profile if you are interested in what happened. All the best

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Posted 21 Jan 2025 at 18:35

Hi everyone,

Thank you for the support and sharing your expieriences and thoughts.

Unfortunatly - I still feel very vulnerable - I also worry that I may be one of the unlucky ones - as their seems to be no rhyme or reason as to who will or will not suffer from indefnite Erectile and Incontinence problems.

Does it get easier to make a decision if the cancer grows?

Wishing you all the best

Mack Mack

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Posted 21 Jan 2025 at 19:19

The trouble is if the cancer grows significantly for many men the decision becomes easier because options are ruled out. That is the reality for some. Yes it is very difficult but at least you have all options open to you at this time. There are no guarantees. You could have surgery and experience no incontinence or erectile dysfunction and some fortunate men find themselves in that position but others sadly experience far more serious side effects of surgery. No one can say definitively what your outcome will be in terms of the side effects of surgery or radiotherapy. Your surgeon or oncologist may be able to make a more informed guess but could not talk to you in terms of certainties. That is what makes dealing with this disease so difficult.

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