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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 08:18

Hi everyone, I’m Kate, 56, and my partner is currently having tests for prostate cancer. He had a raised PSA,[that came back as 35],  and then had a bone scan which showed a suspicious looking lymph node, but no other involvement.  He then had an MRI (multi parametric MRI of prostate) which came back as a grade 5, and we’re now waiting for a date for him to have a biopsy. Understandably we’re both a little apprehensive! 
He says he has to have the prostate removed by surgery but I’ve said let’s get the biopsy done first and then see what the specialist says, trying not to jump too far ahead right now! He’s told his manager at work, and I’ve told my line manager in case I need time off to go with him to appointments/ further intervention. 

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 09:46

Hi Kate,

Going through diagnosis is far from easy, I know. But once results from the biopsy are in, you'll know more about what you're dealing with, and what treatment options are on the table. 

Good luck. 

Kev.

 

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 12:29

Hi Kate.

I'm sorry that you've had to join the club but welcome to the forum.

There's nothing I can add to what Kev has said, the biopsy will shed more light on your husband's condition. There are many concerned partners on here. Please keep us updated and we will do our best to help and support you. 

Best of luck to you both. 👍

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 18:39

Hi Kate,

My PSA was 36 at diagnosis, so not much different. There is a chance that it might have broken through the capsule with a PSA like mime(and your husbands) but you really need to wait and see. I know how difficult that is…I was all set for surgery until it was ruled out by the MDT meeting. Mine had just nudged into the Semimal Vesicles with staging T3B. I know how difficult it is not knowing so just try and keep your lives as normal as possible during the waiting,  and be good to yourselves.

Good luck to both of you on your journey!

Derek

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 09:46

Hi Kate,

Going through diagnosis is far from easy, I know. But once results from the biopsy are in, you'll know more about what you're dealing with, and what treatment options are on the table. 

Good luck. 

Kev.

 

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 12:29

Hi Kate.

I'm sorry that you've had to join the club but welcome to the forum.

There's nothing I can add to what Kev has said, the biopsy will shed more light on your husband's condition. There are many concerned partners on here. Please keep us updated and we will do our best to help and support you. 

Best of luck to you both. 👍

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 14:07
Thanks both, yes we have to wait for the biopsy obviously, I just think my partner is already at diagnosis in his head, and I'm just trying to get him to take it step by step, not easy for him obviously or for me, your mind does tend to work overtime! I've told him NOT to google anything but to be guided by the urology specialists. He has been given a number for the urology cancer specialist nurse if he does have any questions or concerns, Thanks again for your support.
User
Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 18:39

Hi Kate,

My PSA was 36 at diagnosis, so not much different. There is a chance that it might have broken through the capsule with a PSA like mime(and your husbands) but you really need to wait and see. I know how difficult that is…I was all set for surgery until it was ruled out by the MDT meeting. Mine had just nudged into the Semimal Vesicles with staging T3B. I know how difficult it is not knowing so just try and keep your lives as normal as possible during the waiting,  and be good to yourselves.

Good luck to both of you on your journey!

Derek

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Posted 02 Feb 2025 at 22:17

Thanks Derek

Will try to keep positive and try not to overthink things, he said he’s going to speak to the urology department tomorrow (we both work in the hospital), where he’s having the biopsy and where so far he’s had all the tests, to see if he can find out anything. 

 
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