As with other things with PCa and it's treatment, men can respond to varying degrees so I don't think you will get a reliable idea of how severely you would be impacted by RT even without the additional problems you have in respect of incontinence. At its worse I was for a time getting up 8 times a night due to RT but this gradually reduced to my pre RT level of once or twice a night and I was continent prior to RT. With EBRT there is some beam scatter along the path of the beam anyway. They already shape the bean to minimise dose that the rectum receives for instance. In your position I would want to get an opinion from a Radiooncologist who is given full details of your PCa and particularly your scans. To be frank, I don't think anybody here or at MacMillan unfamiliar with your individual case is going to be in a position to provide information that will be of great significance.