Are we a miserable bunch...?

As regards the Lady in question, many of her posts were in the former format of this forum where there was no provision for thanks, which at least partly explains why she did not receive the number of thanks in proportion to her number of posts that she would have received had they all been in the current format. Have to say I am not a great fan of pressing the thanks button prefering to add thanks and acknowledgement personally where particularly helpful. I am on a motor forum where not only the names or user names of those giving thanks are recorded by each each worthy post if considered helpful but a grade is ascribed ranging up to a cup sign for highly rated posts as occasionally awarded by members. Some feel it gets a bit unnecessary and competitive.

Adrian, I may be wrong yet again, but I recall the lady in question posting that she never looked at the thanks she had be given, which may explain things. I think the thank button is a bit limited in its usefulness, saying thanks to someone who has posted about the loss of a loved one doesn't seem right. In the last couple of days on the PC Facebook site the announcement of a death prompted just under 400 emojis and 135 responses , I don't think that means we are an uncaring bunch of people.

I have said a few times that the dynamics of this site has changed and we are fortunate that you and people like Barry do so much to keep it going. Apologies for not mentioning all the other regulars who do contribute you know who you are 

I will be totally honest after 11 years and perhaps the effect of the medication, I sometimes can't be arsed. I never like to see posts go unanswered and with such a tish journey I do try and avoid answering newbies for fear of putting them off treatment.

I don't even know how the thanks works can you see who thanked your own post. 

Keep up the good work guys it is appreciated.

I thought once we were over 65 we had a right or even a duty to be miserable buggers. 😄😄😄.

Thanks Chris 

Lyn was always direct and a huge contributor to this forum but some men clearly have trouble accepting both that they have cancer and that they have to act on it, so sometimes Lyn's messages weren't well received.

The regulars here have gone through whatever stages of understanding it takes to live with their cancer and they probably aren't going to "thank" for something they're already well informed on.

The challenge for us is not so much the people who don't "thank" but the people with cancer who come into this place and don't shift their views to acceptance of where they are and what they need to do. Sometimes, with some notable examples, they even get aggressive in their denial or they just leave. I often wonder what happens to these people. Maybe they go off somewhere else and follow good professional advice. Maybe they don't.

Yes, thanks probably are on the meagre side but they're a pretty blunt tool and I'm sure that many posts that don't get thanks are still valued by all of us.

Jules

Chris that is my understanding about the lady in question too.  Like a few others of us long standing members she prefered the old forum format, was against personal messaging prefering PCa related subjects to be discussed on the forum with the opportunity to challege/correct misinformation.  She expressed strong opinions sometimes laced with a sense of humour.  It would have been nice if she or somebody she knows could have told us she is OK as several members here have enquired after her.  There was nurse previously who was very active in a similar way but had a breakdown and stopped posting.  Whatever reason both did much and many are indebted to them.  Posts on this forum are also read by many members or non members, so all who seek and give information beit occasionally or frequently help with PCa dissemination.