Hi Dave,
Welcome to the group. I have found it to be friendly, supportive and a great place to share all the ups and downs.
For me, I found it useful to get an understanding of all the terms and technicalities. Most people here seem to introduce themselves with age and scores. They divulge treatment plans and other info too. Not a competition, though it does seem to be a gauge that helps us all identify with each other. Reliable and accurate information is essential and Prostate Cancer Uk is considered ‘the reliable source’ by many individuals and organisations.
I have also found it invaluable to talk about it, openly and in detail when appropriate, with family, freinds and colleagues. I think it helps for partners to read the same information too, then you are both reading from the same hymn sheet and it is easier to have conversations about feelings, treatments, challenges and so on. My consultant started with the softly softly approach until I demanded ‘the numbers’ and the options. I also asked for his estimations on outcomes - I did tell him I would not hold him to this as was trying to cut through all the ifs buts and maybes.
It is a bit s***, takes a minute to sink in and this is just the beginning. You may think you have found your mental place in it all and then new information comes to light and stirs it around a bit. I have tried to take an attitude that acknowledges some less favourable outcomes for me, difficult decisions, sacrifices. I have also considered outcomes and the actions I need to take to mitigates the problems they might present. I do stress though - I am not sitting around fretting and worrying about ifs, buts and maybes. Consider, reflect and plan, DO NOT STRESS, FRET OR WORRY if at all possible to do so.
When it all becomes too much, speak out. There is a lot of support.
So here is my PCa intro:
I am 44, Gleason 3+4 T2c diagnosed eight months ago after four years of elevated PSA blood test results. Latest PSA 3.2 from 2.8 6months earlier. Apparently my surgical plan is up for expediting at August’s consult.
Reach out to me if you wish - nice to find someone in a similar position and age to me. But take care and take time to let it settle.