Head in bits

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Posted 17 Jul 2025 at 16:58

Diagnosed last week, still don't know what all the numbers mean, advised AS. Don't know why but head in absolute bits. One side of my brain is saying ' it's OK, they've caught it early and they're really good at treating it these days, it's only cancer light, you'll be fine. The other side is screaming ' CANCER, CANCER, YOU GOT OLD MAN CANCER'. I have been surprised by the intensity of my emotional reaction, I am angry, irritable and my brain is a foggy mess. Don't really have anyone to talk to and not sure if I could find the words to adequately express how I am feeling anyway.

Is it that time already, wasn't it 1976 five minutes ago?

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Posted 17 Jul 2025 at 18:07

Hi Harry,

I'm sorry to see that you've had to join our Club, but welcome to the forum, mate.

If you could give us your PSA, Gleason score, and cancer staging it would help us to make an informed comment.

You'll get plenty of new helpful friends on here. 👍

Edited by member 17 Jul 2025 at 18:08 | Reason: Not specified

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Posted 17 Jul 2025 at 18:13

Harry,

Welcome to the forum even if this is the last place anyone would want to be!

We all know how you are feeling and your reaction is very normal. For me the 'It's okay it's only cancer lite' side won out until after I have my prostate removed. Then the 'cancer' side took over as I went through a number of scares about it spreading (it hasn't). Please keep posting on here and maybe give us some of the details about your diagnosis. Guys on here will be able to help you to understand all those strange and scary scores like your Gleeson Score. The best thing you can do at this point is post and get answers.

1976 was a great year and I would love to be back there again. However, despite the cancer, 2025 has been wonderful as well.

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Posted 17 Jul 2025 at 18:28

Stay strong brother, thanks for the support 🙏

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Posted 17 Jul 2025 at 19:35

Quite so, Harry. It's like the bereavement process where you go through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. To a new normal. Humans huh! Keep the faith.

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Posted 17 Jul 2025 at 19:49

The part of your brain that is telling you 'AS has been recommended and today's treatments are advanced beyond what was possible even 10 years' is the one to listen to. The problem is that it's so hard to shut the other part up!

Your oncology team knows what it's doing and I'm sure there's no reason why you can't deal with this and carry on with your life pretty much as normal. All the very best to you, please do keep us posted on your progress, there's plenty of advice and experience here to help you when you it.

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