I hope the waiting is not too long and stressful for you both.
The amount of information they give out seems to vary wildly. When I went in for my biopsy I knew virtually nothing of what the mri scan had shown. But the doctor doing the biopsy explained it to me before the procedure and it sounded fairly grim to me. I'm not sure if knowing in advance would have helped or not, but I know that not knowing was very stressful and led to a lot of speculation and sleepless nights.
When the biopsy results came back they didn't tell me anything at all. Just that they hadn't found cancer in any of the samples.
I'm not sure what the protocols are for giving out test results but it seems they think the less information the better, people aren't equipped to deal with the type of information contained so might as well keep it from them.
I think doctors are so removed from patients that the forget they are dealing with a human being and not just a set of test results and numbers on a score card. I had my scans and biopsy and got no information from them at all. The MDT never saw me and just pronounced on a set of data, not a patient.
I know doctors are busy, but the impersonal way you are treated on this journey is pretty poor for my money.
I saw a guy in A&E this morning when I went for a wound check. He'd broken his ankle by the look of it. The consultant orthopedic surgeon came out to see him in the waiting room and gave him more information about what was happening to him than I got through numerous visits to cancer clinics. And the nasty piece of work still had the cheek to curse and swear about the bloody state of the NHS and that the doctor was Asian after he had left. Nice.