Hello, mate.
Welcome to the forum.
I had RARP three years ago. I had incontinence issues for about 6/7 months. Which is about average. Very occasionally I still get stress incontinence dribbles.
I've never bothered using a a VED for penile rehabilitation. I find it difficult enough to use a bike pump. 🙂
My operation was non nerve sparing, so no more natural erections. However, I can get them, chemically induced, by penile injections.
I hope things improve for you. Best of luck.👍