Hi, JP.
I'm sorry that you've joined 'The Prostate Cancer Club' , but welcome to the forum. You'll get plenty of help and support here.
Here's an excellent video on various treatments options including surgery, and their possible side effects.
https://youtu.be/zYTU94-8pTc?si=xW83bOb0AVFQFD2l
Incontinence after RARP can vary enormously. A few, especially those who've had Retzius sparing or Complete Urtheral Peservation, can be in control of their bladder from catheter removal. A few unlucky ones can still be incontinent a year or more later.
Generally, after normal RARP, about 30% will regain continence after 3 months, 60% by 6 months, and over 80% by a year.
Three years ago, I had non-nerve sparing RARP and regaind full continence 6/7 months after surgery. However, my ED side effects appear to have been permanent. I can no longer get natural erections, but can get an erection with penile injections.
If you are considering surgery the outcomes are often better if you operated on by an experienced surgeon.
Here's one such surgeon advising those thinking about having RARP.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1fyYTLZpxnB9HaR7O4xQ5Ff58Pj4Cn6ZB/view
Whatever treatment you chose, I wish you well. Good luck, mate. 👍