Worried for my husband

You just have to run with it, see what they find and deal with it.

As far as I can tell from the steps that have been taken so far then protocol is being followed, 2 weeks pathway is standard practice. The only event that is slightly odd is the request for biopsy without someone at least ringing to discuss.

Ok don't panic yet, no one has said cancer and your OH is being sent for a biopsy because something has been spotted on the MRI but until that biopsy is complete then no one knows what.

Not going to sugar coat this but the biopsy itself is not a pleasant experience. But clearly necessary. I found the staff actually made the whole process as tolerable as possible.

It's been said many times on here, one of the worst elements is the waiting for the next appointment. Once the investigation is complete and you have a way forward then  some say they feel a little better, I know I did.

Finally your OH PSA has passed a threshold which automatically prompts investigation. However it's not high by any means and the likelihood is that if cancer is found it's at a very early stage and treatable. My brother's PSA is higher than your OH and he does not have cancer. My PSA was 8.7 (age 52) but the cancer was localised which meant I was on a curative path.

I am not medically trained but just passing on my experiences of PCa.

Hi, Skye.

I'm sorry that your husband is having possible prostate problems, especially if he worries about health issues. However, it's great that you've joined the forum, to help him. Welcome.

His PSA is only marginally elevated. Not having his MRI result is not really that significant, as a biopsy is the only test that can categorically tell IF there are any cancerous cells.

I hope the biopsy goes well and the results are favourable.

Please keep us updated and good luck. 👍 

Edited by member 05 Sep 2026 at 22:37  | Reason: Typo

Going through the investigation phase is tough on the man, but we sometimes forget how tough it can be on their partner.

Shutting everyone out is not a good coping strategy, he needs to realise this is not just about him, you are involved and deserve better from him. My brother is behaving in a similar way and asking them to change their perspective is no easy task.

He is at the very early stages of being examined and has numbers very similar to my own. I did not get any feedback on my MRI, I was just told they wanted a biopsy so I was having one (wrong, they should inform you of the MRI so they can get informed consent for the biopsy procedure).

The biopsy was no big deal, uncomfortable and could be embarrassing, but discuss cervical smear tests and mammograms with him for embarrassment levels.

Mine came back with no sign of cancer, so all the worrying and over thinking were for nothing.

It sounds a bit harsh but he needs a dose of tough love,  at the minute all he has to worry about is one more test and a bit of waiting. He is getting all het up about something that could simply be nothing. 

If he is like this now imagine what will happen if things dont go well and he gets a diagnosis.  He needs to save the worrying for then. And even then the prognosis is usually pretty good if caught in good time. 

The kind of negativity he is showing now won't do him any favours down the line if he does have a poor result. 

Its not easy but he needs to think of you too  not just poor me....

Mick