Today is the First Day of the Rest of my Life

Just a few extra thoughts Steve, I don't know if you have debts but these all add to worries and extra pressure which you don't need at the moment. 

Debt management have down loadable forms that you can print you then fill these in and offer £1.00 per month to anyone that you owe monies to and they have to accept this, so there is help out there. I know that you are not feeling well enough to organise this but as Dave has suggested the CAB can organise this for you.

Hope this helps

X

BFN

Julie X

In life many events happen which are out of our control, you are 60+ years old I believe, you must have made many good decisions to get to where your are now, provided for your family built a home etc, 

your not being singled out by some unforseen power at work ,this difficult period will pass in time, consider confiding in your family members as they know you best ,they care and love you, if thats possible and if you can return to work maybe thats what you need to do sooner rather than later,

being at home with an illness no income , seeing your savings ebbing away,  is a soul distroying experience, not many people really know whats its like,all what you worked for is now being taken away

Being self employed is no fun when work stops, its a painful experience, I know this from personal experience, the passed 4 years I lost my businees, my income, and my savings,  because of Illness, I'm not blaming anyone ,I got no state benefit apart from state pension,

my wife works part time, we get by, my salvation has been my family and friends.

Best wishes to you and your family.

Arthur

Steve, you sound so low, we are all worried about you.

You need to speak to someone who can help.

Have you thought of contacting the Samaritans? I have no experience of them but they will have known many others feeling as you do...and could suggest some help.

Please try them.

Alison x

Hi Steve,

I don't always respond to your posts mainly because your treatment path and health issues are very different to mine and I am unable to offer any advice...

I do however read all your posts and I can see and understand just what a difficult time you are going through at the moment.

I can't add to the advice already given, but just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts, and I sincerely hope that you and your wife can get the help you both so very much deserve and need..

Best Wishes

Luther

Selling the house maybe should be not necessary even to consider yet?

"Creative" borrowing, working the financial system, could provide a solution to any problems in the short to medium term, which may resolve the issues being faced?

Accepting that the principle can not borrow, it may be possible for associates of the principal to borrow on existing CC and then take out new CC on a zero % transfer basis, pay off the minimum each month. May help?

But, the point being made by Devonmaid about owning a house not necessarily being the "be all and end all" is a point well made.

dave

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Tiny steps, one at a time.

Go and see the GP as soon as you can - take a print out of this thread or write down how you have been feeling and give it to him or her.

Who knows more about Steve? Real name? Address or mobile number? Wife's name? Facebook account? Anything that can help us find out what has happened and how he is?

Thanks for replies via PM - I have left a message on Steve's home number and will let people know if I hear anything. I do hope that he is okay and I imagine that his family were very aware of how low he was feeling - perhaps the stress combined with reducing his medication caused his heart rate to dip too low again.

Thinking of you Steve x

Pray you get the rest and care, physically and emotionally, you need.

Paul