A New Chapter

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Posted 29 Jun 2019 at 08:23

Hi Steve, we're facing a similar dilemma.

We've been here 25 years and love the house and garden.

However the maintenance on this place keeps me busy and I don't want to leave her alone with this in mind.

I reckon we should move while I'm feeling well enough, next year I could be knackered and not up to the rigours of a stressful move.

My wife wants to leave it for another 12 months at least.

Decisions decisions.

John

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Posted 29 Jun 2019 at 09:05

Steve, out of our 7 moves only 1 went through with no hassle. This supposedly last move, as others here have done, is move so partners are taken care of abode wise. On reflection I'm not so sure it's the right decision. Just some top of my head thoughts :- Is the bricks and mortar issue more important than the support network; are we dictating how life should be for the surviving partner; are they not stronger than we think; are we not creating a double whammy of new life and new abode?

Tha answer to move or not for surviving reasons is I've not sure at all.

Ray

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Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 08:45

Hi,

I needed a bit of good news, after the way I've been feeling recently but I wasn't expecting this.

After being told by my oncologist that she didn't expect my PSA to fall until she added additional treatment, my latest results show my PSA has fallen from 2.6 to 2.3 !

It's the first time my PSA has fallen since my first test after restarting treatment last year. Since then, when the result was 0.775, all six tests had shown an increase.

It would be nice to think this would continue for a while.

Steve

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Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 09:53

That has to be good news Steve. Must be a boost.

User

Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 10:59

That is a positive result Steve. It would be interesting to hear the oncologist’s view on the reduction.

Ido4

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Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 12:57

Long may it drop

User

Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 13:42

Steve

A good result, hope it continues.

Thanks Chris

User

Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 13:54

A step in the right direction at last. Great news!

Arthur

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Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 16:55

Good news. We have thought about a lot of things and both like where we live and are doing the bigger jobs now and if either of us were to pop off we know the other has good neighbours, a manageable garden for either, walks on the doorstep and children fairly close. We thought about going back to our home area where we still know people but they are aging too and there are have been many changes since we lived there.

So here we are staying for as long as we can. We dread every psa test each month and know it is creeping up again so just keep going and praying.

I am sure you will be ok if you move and will adapt in time.

User

Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 17:02

Great news Steve! It's about time!

Flexi

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Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 18:14

Excellent news Steve, now you can not worry about it and enjoy the summer!

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Posted 10 Jul 2019 at 22:21

Great news Steve 👍👍

Bri

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Posted 14 Sep 2019 at 07:32

Hi,

They say moving house is one of the most stressful things you can do and in recent weeks it has turned out that way.

We were two weeks away from exchanging contracts on our house sale and our buyer has pulled out.

Feeling tired of the whole process now.

Steve

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Posted 14 Sep 2019 at 15:55

Steve

Our daughter bought her first house earlier this year, what a nightmare. Hope you get another buyer quickly, will the delay affect the property you are moving to ?

Take care, thanks Chris.

User

Posted 14 Sep 2019 at 19:41

Steve ,Sorry to hear the news ,
But keep at it you are doing the right thing , I DS about four years ago into a small 2 bed Bungalow In preparation for my departure , still here and Everything is sorted new fences ,new bathroom , new kitchen , complete Re/dec ,rewire , Paved rear garden and Astro turf and pebbles to all the beds , and vinyl click flooring inside throughout .
Good luck

Barry

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Posted 15 Sep 2019 at 09:54

Hi,

Fortunately, at the moment, the vendors of the bungalow are prepared to wait but I'm not sure how long they will.

We just want to get the whole process over with. I feel very tired. My next appointment with the Oncologist is a week on Tuesday so the worry about that will take my mind off the house sale.

Steve

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Posted 15 Sep 2019 at 11:30

Oh Steve

That’s a real pain in the neck, I’m so sorry, what a stressful process it all is. Hope you get another buyer quickly.

lots of love

Devonmaid xxx

User

Posted 19 Sep 2019 at 09:54

Hi,

Thanks for your replies, especially the last one. I am really grateful for you to have time to put a message on my posts when you're facing such a difficult time. My thoughts are very much with you at this time and pray that John will be as comfortable as possible, everyone's love is with you.

Steve

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Posted 20 Sep 2019 at 04:12

Hi,

In the midst of depressive and stressful times, wonderful things can sometimes happen. We have just become grandparents again!

A beautiful baby boy arrived to my son and his wife yesterday. We now have four grandchildren, all boys!

Can't wait to see him later today.

This is what really matters in life, family.

I have come to terms with my cancer and what the future holds for me but the sadness I feel sometimes is the realisation that at some point, I will have to leave them.

Steve

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Posted 21 Sep 2019 at 18:08

Congratulations Steve on the new edition to your family

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