Hi
Welcome to the site. First thing is you have made a positive move posting on here. Its a marvellous site and many people helped me when i was diagnosed 3 years ago.
I would recommend that you get a copy of the Toolkit publication.Just go to Our Publications on this site.
Your stats are so similar to mine.Yes i was told by my doctor and also my Macmillan nurse not to panic. But you do!! By the way have you been in contact with a Macmillan nurse? In our area I had a call the same day after my diagnosis. But this depends on where you live.My nurse was a pillar of strength to me.
So its only been 3 days since diagnosis. If i think back to my diagnosis i couldnt believe it. The first 3 mornings i woke up and i thought it was bad dream. But it wasn't. I was angry because i look after myself. I am a regular at the gym( i am the only one in my family who keeps fit) and do physical work. I eat and drink carefully. So why me? No symptoms and no family history. It just happened.
So I understand your panic/anger/sadness etc. you have had a big shock and i am sure the news has not sunk in. But also your family are having to deal with this too.
How do you cope? You do but its not easy for you or your family. Everyday can be quite long and gaps between appointments seem to be forever. There is only one thing on your mind.
I was told early on that the cancer had been caught early and so my chances of beating it were good. Also it is one of the less aggressive cancers. Of course in the first few weeks i couldnt take this in. I just felt so down and physically tired from the stress of it all.
It took 3 weeks before i realised that things weren't as bad as i thought. Yes i had cancer but it could be beaten. So i started to become positive. I couldnt carry on being down and i had got used to the idea that i had cancer and there was only one way to go.
I had a da vinci op which was successful( i understand that you are still in the early stages of coping with the diagnosis and havent even thought of the next steps so forgive me for talking about treatment) and 3 years on all my tests have been 100% clear. I feel fine and i am back working and doing all the things i used to do including going to the gym.
I had mri and bone scans quite soon after diagnosis and they were clear. But it was very worrying waiting for the results. So i can understand your concern.
I hope this has helped. Yes it is good to talk and try to stay in touch with us here. I joined a local support group and that was a big help in talking to others who had been diagnosed and successfully gone through treatment.
Its early days yet but try and be positive and talk to as many people about what has happened.
Keep in touch and feel free to ask any questions
John