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Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 07:30
Dear Devonmaid ,my thoughts are with you and your family .

Debby

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 07:54
Sincere condolences to you and yours.

Keep the Faith.

J xxx

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 07:56

Allison

Please accept my sincere condolences. Take some comfort in the thought that John can now rest in peace. Look after yourself. Lots of love and hugs.

 

Thanks Chris
User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 08:25
Allison

So sorry to hear this news this morning. You and John have been the heart of this forum and his loss affects us all. Sincere condolences. My mum died from bronchial pneumonia in 2003 so I know very well what this awful end means. Take care in what must be a very distressing time for you.

Dave

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 09:12

Allison, I so sorry to hear this news , although we all knew that it was coming.
John is at peace now , this Cancer cannot hurt him or you any more 
My heart aches for you and yours 
Barry xx

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 09:12
Dear Allison

Sorry for yours and your families loss, you have been so strong. At last John is at peace now.

When our bodies die we live on in the memories of our loved ones and I'm sure you will have many happy ones.

Good luck for the future.

Cheers

Bill

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 09:17
Dear Ali a blessed relief and release for you all. RIP John now. Sending our love xx
User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 09:19

So sorry to read this Allison.   I know how awful the end can be after seeing my dad go through it and it must be so much worse for you with it being your husband.   Sincere condolences to you and your family.  I'll be thinking of you all xx

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 09:20

Sorry to read this. Condolences to you and the family.

 

Ido4

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 09:39
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family Allison.

My thoughts are with you.

Rest easy John.

Roger
User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 10:32
So sorry to hear your news.

May John rest in peace

"Incurable cancer does not mean it is untreatable and does not mean it is terminal either"
User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 14:03
😢

xxxx

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 14:18
Dear Allison.

Please accept my sincere condolences at the loss of your John.

I know it is currently difficult for you to think over all the happy, funny times you shared but I really hope that at some stage in the not too distant future, you will be able to sit and think of John and remember.

Sandra

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User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 14:32

May he rest in peace, you have been the most wonderful wife Allison. 

I hope one day you will have enough healing to have special memories. 

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 16:42

Dear Allison,

I am so deeply saddened to know that your John has passed on.

Words are never enough at times like this, and I can only try.

 

You belonged together and always will do. John was a lovely man, a true gentleman, and so very strong.

His pain is over but yours must be awful to bear.

 

May I say that any of us men blessed with a wife such as you is feeling your pain more than we ever feel our own.

You have been a wonderful wife through everything that you've gone through.

We husbands with PCa  understand only too well how we wouldn't cope without our devoted wives. They are absolutely precious.

 

Sincerest condolences to you from us all.

 

George & Lynn

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 20:25

Allison

Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Your posts where one of the first that I read when I joined this forum ,the strength and positivity that I gained from them has helped me through year one of this disease  and I am inspired by yours and John's courage to the end. 

Much love and respect

Chris.

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 20:58

I am so sorry to read of your loss. My sincere condolences, you could have done no more. Kev.

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Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 21:26

Thank you my friends, I’ve got great comfort from your words. I didn’t know how things could be, I think I had a romanticised view of it all and no longer do. I will though, never regret looking after John at home even though it was not easy for any of us. Some nurses were definitely more sensible and others were in the “we mustn’t sedate him” camp (lunatics one and all). I can’t imagine life going forward but another part of me is grateful for the nine years of extra love I had and am glad I know I did all I could do for my love. Hospice or home? It’s a tough one, I am glad I managed what John wanted but it took a massive toll on me. It did give the girls much more time with him as they live close and the Hospice is further away. it’s a personal choice but a hard one, I don’t know which is best, certainly for medical help Hospice is immeasurably best. We were subject to the individual choice of nurses about whether John got pain relief or not, and I had to fight (and didn’t always win) a few times. Palliative care is not a simple course when people have strong views (nurses mainly) I did not realise that and waiting, the endless phoning for help and waiting, please consider this aspect when deciding, it’s appalling having to wait hours for support, I can’t bear to think of the time we spent waiting for a nurse to come. And as for the last two days, it would have been so much better handled in hospice, but John was far too ill to be moved. Such a tough decision to make, always worth knowing, I didn’t know how bad things could get (here I’m talking about pain management and pneumonia), beyond my capacity to manage and thank god for the carers who knew what to do, even though it was ghastly. I know this is a bit muddled (the last few weeks have been like that) but I wanted to get down how tough this decision has turned out to be. Rest in Peace my darling John, a fighter of the first order. 

User
Posted 22 Sep 2019 at 21:38
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family, no more suffering Geoff.
User
Posted 23 Sep 2019 at 02:55
A very hard post to write Allison but you did what John wanted, and it became harder for you towards the end, but cherish the good times over the 9 years of his suffering that has now come to an end, now it’s time for you to get your health back to normality and for the grieving to start, for which take all the time you need.

We are all behind you in thoughts and spirit.

xxxxhugsxxxx

Chris.

 
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