Sorry to see this Norm - as an old friend on here posted many, many times "it ain't over 'til the fat lady sings ... so we have locked her in the cellar"
The hospice team or Macmillan team should have a volunteer or social worker who can help with some very practical things like:
- helping you to apply for attendance allowance on the fast track route (if you don't already receive PIP or disability attendance allowance)
- talking to social services about whether a carer's assessment would be helpful (for either you as your wife's carer or her as yours)
- day centre services / holistic therapies
- making sure your financial / legal affairs are sorted
- having difficult conversations about your preferences and wishes - and how your wife/ family feel about those things
The attendance allowance (if you are entitled to it) is not means-tested and is for the purpose of paying for things that will make your last months comfortable - for example, mobility aids, home care / assistance, bathroom grab rails, scooter / wheelchair, a cleaner?
Down the line, if you need major things like a hospital grade bed, air mattress, etc., the oalliative / hospice team will liaise with local authority social services to get those on loan.