Yay, no erection but can orgasm

Masturbating without an erection is not easy and if you leak urine it is smelly and messy. I suffer from ED and climacturia (urine leakage). I have been using vacuum pumps for many years and if I am not going to have sex with my wife I use the pump to give me a small erection, put the ring on and masturbate without the messiness. Warning: if you masturbate with a ring on, have and orgasm and when you take the ring off you may spurt out urine - be ready with something to soak up the urine!

I think orgasms, like continence, are very much an individual experience. I had non nerve sparing radical surgery so I knew that erections were a thing of the past. A week after my catheter was removed, I decided to have a go at masturbating although I’d read scary stories about some men experiencing pain or not being able to reach a climax. I’d also read that you don’t get that feeling of fullness prior to ejaculation because there’s nothing to ejaculate.

In my case, the masturbation was very successful. As years have passed, I’ve often reached a climax with my penis still flaccid, so the lack of an erection wasn’t too much of an issue. My penis is shorter than pre-op, and it wasn’t huge then, but by using my thumb and fingers I reached an orgasm after about five minutes. I did have some aid in the form of pornography, but I’ve subsequently reached an orgasm in not much longer a time with no external stimulus. 

For me, every orgasm has felt great - I’ve had five now - and only one resulted in a small amount of wee coming out. It feels weird not to be ejaculating, like I’m a young boy again - I wish - but it’s a lot better than my first masturbation after the biopsy which was scary (I thought my penis was bleeding!)

I also get a feeling that I’m close to reaching a climax which I didn’t expect but is reassuring to know that it’s not far off. 

I'l start by saying that the wife and I enjoy some bedroom fun - just not as often as I'd like so I'm 'allowed' to take myself in hand when the mood is there.

FWO or floppy willy orgasms, are, for me, extremely enjoyable with zero mess (I don't leak urine) and again, like some others, I didn't have a lot to start with and have even less now - but it still works. I can't get on with using lube myself but if my wife is helping then lube is a must.

I found a cheaper version of the Hot Octopuss (£22) that is brilliant - it's meant to wrap around a penis but I simple flatten it out and place it against the penis so the vibrating nub is against the gland. Given some mental stimulation with pornography, I can orgasm very satisfactorily in about 5 -7 minutes.

I did have something similar to Decho's that required an erect penis and lots of lube but for some reason I can't get it to work with my VED erect penis - if the penis is too hard/erect then the nerve sensations feel different although it works OK for intercourse.

If anyone wants to try something a little different then I found some excellent VR porn that I can access through the web browser on my Oculus Quest 2 VR headset - now that is quite a new sensation!