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Posted 01 Aug 2023 at 19:23

It is now 14mths since my RP, I notice my erection are coming back it is 60-70% firm, the problem is that I keep it for longer than 2-3 mins. I was wondering if anyone else has been through this and if it this part of the recovery process?


Thanks.

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 12:40
Sounds like you are the perfect candidate to try a durex cock ring, will add an extra 10% AND help keep it there! No pump required
User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 22:13
Gaz61 sounds like you need to try harder to convince her you are fine!
User
Posted 03 Aug 2023 at 05:28
User
Posted 30 Aug 2023 at 13:35

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
Sounds like you are the perfect candidate to try a durex cock ring, will add an extra 10% AND help keep it there! No pump required


Hope this will help someone. Not long after my surgery probably 3months afterwards, I bought myself a medical grade pump from amazon - vaccurect. Tried as I may, I could not hold an erection. Several guys on here were adamant I was doing something wrong. The erection was lost soon as I removed it from the pump, with the ring in place! I was subsequently issued with a SomaErect device by the NHS - The result was the same - So I gave up. 


In the meantime, I resorted to using a strap-on - this did the job somewhat. I was also prescribed the injections, however I do have a severe phobia with needles and injections, therefore the thought of injecting myself or my wife administering it fills me with dread. 


I have woken up on occasions with an erection, but lose it once I think about it. With nothing to lose, I went back to my initial VED, and to my surprise can now maintain an erection for penetrative sex by using the Vaccurect device. I also purchased a vibrating cock ring to spice things up. It does not matter which of the tension rings I use, I don't lose my erection, 15mths post surgery my darling wife can "feel" me again! I also don't know if my erections are firmer using the VED + Tadalafil (20mg) tablet, it however does feel like it.


So I would like to encourage anyone in the same boat not to give up, especially if you are still very early days post surgery!

User
Posted 30 Aug 2023 at 20:21

Hi Gee_Baba


If you message me privately I can arrange for you to view a video to show how easy it is to create a satisfactory erection with a pump.

 'Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it.'                    Richard Feynman (1918-1988) Nobel Prize laureate


 


 

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User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 07:27

Lucky you! I’m only 4 months post op and if I woke my wife in the night and said proudly ‘look at this’ her response would be ‘what’ followed by a large kick where it hurts for waking her up before turning over to go back to sleep!!! I get the occasional stirrings but nothing to write home about sometimes after taking viagra. The pump helps but after pumping then you get that deflating feeling! I realise I’ve a long way to go before getting to your stage. 

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 09:57

Relatively speaking it is still early days, so there is still time for improvement. You haven't said whether you using any assistance to get an erection ie pump and ring, Cialis/Viagra. If it's pump and ring then are you using the right ring to maintain erection? Otherwise is it more a psychological thing. You get get yourself sexually aroused, the erection appears, then you start to worry whether it is going to stay there and you lose the moment. I have suffered from that a bit of that which is very frustrating for both in the middle of intercourse. They key is to try not to let it bother you and just enjoy the moment (easier said than done).

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 12:40
Sounds like you are the perfect candidate to try a durex cock ring, will add an extra 10% AND help keep it there! No pump required
User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 13:21

Are you using any PDE5 inhibitors? (Viagra/Sildenafil, Cialis/Tadalafil, etc).


These will help. Tadalafil in particular is sometimes suggested for the case where you can get an erection, but not keep it for long enough. 20mg is the usual event dose, although even the 5mg daily low dose is likely to help if you're getting this far.


You should be able to get these on prescription from your GP. If you have problems, ask your CNS or consultant to tell your GP to prescribe them.

Edited by member 02 Aug 2023 at 13:33  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 15:02

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member


Relatively speaking it is still early days, so there is still time for improvement. You haven't said whether you using any assistance to get an erection ie pump and ring, Cialis/Viagra.



I am on the 20mg taladafil, which I take haphazardly on and off 2ce a week at the most. I was just curious if getting a hard-on and not being able to maintain it for more than 2minutes is normal?

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 16:13

Hi,


I think you're definitely making progress so keep trying.


I could only manage a couple of minutes or so at first, but hardness and duration has improved over time. Progress was sometimes painfully slow but I'm happy now. 


Hope this helps. 


Kev.

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 19:05

Partner is terrified that sex will damage my prostate after radiotherapy she just doesn't want to risk any damage being caused or reccurance that my sex life is all but over we do the cuddles thing and it seems I will have to except her feelings another horrible downside to PC 

User
Posted 02 Aug 2023 at 22:13
Gaz61 sounds like you need to try harder to convince her you are fine!
User
Posted 03 Aug 2023 at 00:15

Thanks francij 1 mentioned it at local meeting I was surprised at the amount off men who feared a relapse after prostate radiotherapy if they resumed sex I wonder if there is any statistics to back this up 

User
Posted 03 Aug 2023 at 05:28
User
Posted 03 Aug 2023 at 06:23

Thanks for that but does the same apply after treatment with radiotherapy I know it is supposed to help not get prostate cancer but what about after radiation 

User
Posted 30 Aug 2023 at 13:35

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member
Sounds like you are the perfect candidate to try a durex cock ring, will add an extra 10% AND help keep it there! No pump required


Hope this will help someone. Not long after my surgery probably 3months afterwards, I bought myself a medical grade pump from amazon - vaccurect. Tried as I may, I could not hold an erection. Several guys on here were adamant I was doing something wrong. The erection was lost soon as I removed it from the pump, with the ring in place! I was subsequently issued with a SomaErect device by the NHS - The result was the same - So I gave up. 


In the meantime, I resorted to using a strap-on - this did the job somewhat. I was also prescribed the injections, however I do have a severe phobia with needles and injections, therefore the thought of injecting myself or my wife administering it fills me with dread. 


I have woken up on occasions with an erection, but lose it once I think about it. With nothing to lose, I went back to my initial VED, and to my surprise can now maintain an erection for penetrative sex by using the Vaccurect device. I also purchased a vibrating cock ring to spice things up. It does not matter which of the tension rings I use, I don't lose my erection, 15mths post surgery my darling wife can "feel" me again! I also don't know if my erections are firmer using the VED + Tadalafil (20mg) tablet, it however does feel like it.


So I would like to encourage anyone in the same boat not to give up, especially if you are still very early days post surgery!

User
Posted 30 Aug 2023 at 16:39

Hi GEE__Baba


It is a great pity you were advised, if you were, to buy a Vacurect. It is heavily advertised and sponsored by some therapists. Over many years I have used several pumps including  Vacurect and I am afraid it is a very inferior product, and over priced. If anyone else is interested I have posted a survey, based on my experience over many years,  of best buys on this site which you can access if you follow the following link:


https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t28948-Re-establishing-Sex-Life

Edited by member 30 Aug 2023 at 16:40  | Reason: Not specified

 'Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it.'                    Richard Feynman (1918-1988) Nobel Prize laureate


 


 

User
Posted 30 Aug 2023 at 19:06

Originally Posted by: Online Community Member


Hi GEE__Baba


It is a great pity you were advised, if you were, to buy a Vacurect. It is heavily advertised and sponsored by some therapists. Over many years I have used several pumps including  Vacurect and I am afraid it is a very inferior product, and over priced. If anyone else is interested I have posted a survey, based on my experience over many years,  of best buys on this site which you can access if you follow the following link:


https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t28948-Re-establishing-Sex-Life



You are right, compared to the Soma ResponseII, the vacurect looks poorly made. I was impatient and also was unaware I could get one on the NHS. I shelled out almost £300 for the Vacurect. It did not work for me at the time, so at my next appointment with the andrologist, I enquired about getting another brand. I was then given a prescription and I got the SomaErect. This also did not work as expected and still does not work. It gives an erection, however when I pull out my engorged penis, the spacer comes out with it. If I deflate a little to allow easy exit, the erection is lost. There are a not of moving parts. The Vaccurect on the other hand is simple, just the pump and the tension rings. I have gotten the hang of that now and that is what I use now,


 

User
Posted 30 Aug 2023 at 20:21

Hi Gee_Baba


If you message me privately I can arrange for you to view a video to show how easy it is to create a satisfactory erection with a pump.

 'Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it.'                    Richard Feynman (1918-1988) Nobel Prize laureate


 


 

 
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