Hi flyingdutch,
I am sorry that you have recently been diagnosed with Prostate Cancer.
Other people have answered your technical questions about the reliability of PSA tests. I can only answer one of your questions: 'how was your sex life after prostatectomy'?
Unfortunately, I was unlucky and had a bad experience, but please be reassured that not everyone has the same experience as me. You might be luckier than I.
I had surgery 14 months ago and still have very poor erections. They are certainly not good enough for penetration.
I have been using the vacuum pump and injections for 8 months and a low dose of Cialis /Tadalafil for 10 months. It is getting slightly better, but it is a slow process. ( I also had urinary incontinence, which has an impact on sexual practices, but this is much better now).
I am sorry that my experience has been negative and I hope that it won't alarm you.
As others have said, the alternative treatment of Radiotherapy with Hormone Therapy would have meant that I would probably have had no libido. I didn't want that (as well as the increase in emotionality that many people report on Hormone Therapy).
One positive outcome of surgery is that when they remove the prostate they examine it in the laboratory and they can see whether the original assessment of how extensive the cancer is was accurate or not. This is called the Histology Report. (In my case, it was slightly worse that the biopsy had indicated, so I was glad that I had had the prostate removed completely).
I wish you well in whatever treatment you decide to have.
Best wishes,
JedSee.