Getting back

Hi Sixtyplus

I was 71 when I had surgery, 15 years ago, so I  understand how you feel. I had both the side effects, erectile dysfunction and arousal climacturia (leaking urine when sexually excited). After 60 years of married life we are still having amazing sex!

There are a couple of factors which have a bearing on your recovery: Your age and in particularly how good were your erections before the surgery; mine were beginning to show signs of age. Also the competence of the surgeon and how well your nerves were preserved is important. 

One thing I would say to you is that whatever happens you don't have to give up sex, particularly penetrative sex. Have a look at the following link where I have described our experience:

https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t28948-Re-establishing-Sex-Life

Because we don't have to rely on natural erections our sex life, in many ways, is better than it might have been before I had prostate cancer.

Keep in touch and good luck.

Edited by member 01 Mar 2026 at 11:57  | Reason: Not specified

May sound a bit nieve, l am going to experiment but is the ring put on before or after using the pump?

Hi Sixtyplus

The ring/s are put on the pump-cylinder before you start pumping and when you have achieved the required erection the ring/s are transferred to the base of the penis, this traps the blood in the penis maintaining the erection. The ring/s should be removed after half an hour. If you want to see how to use a pump please private message me with your email address and I will send you a video.