Hi Sixtyplus
I was 71 when I had surgery, 15 years ago, so I understand how you feel. I had both the side effects, erectile dysfunction and arousal climacturia (leaking urine when sexually excited). After 60 years of married life we are still having amazing sex!
There are a couple of factors which have a bearing on your recovery: Your age and in particularly how good were your erections before the surgery; mine were beginning to show signs of age. Also the competence of the surgeon and how well your nerves were preserved is important.
One thing I would say to you is that whatever happens you don't have to give up sex, particularly penetrative sex. Have a look at the following link where I have described our experience:
https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t28948-Re-establishing-Sex-Life
Because we don't have to rely on natural erections our sex life, in many ways, is better than it might have been before I had prostate cancer.
Keep in touch and good luck.
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Sixtyplus, my experience nearly 10 years ago was that it took about 6 months to get "not firm enough" erections, and somewhere between 9 months and a year before they were functional. I only had unilateral nerve sparing, and was taking tadalafil and using the pump once those were recommended.
But one of the things we all learn on this forum is that everyone is different. Good luck with your progress, could be quicker or slower.
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May sound a bit nieve, l am going to experiment but is the ring put on before or after using the pump?
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Hi Sixtyplus
The ring/s are put on the pump-cylinder before you start pumping and when you have achieved the required erection the ring/s are transferred to the base of the penis, this traps the blood in the penis maintaining the erection. The ring/s should be removed after half an hour. If you want to see how to use a pump please private message me with your email address and I will send you a video.
'Physics is like sex: sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it.' Richard Feynman (1918-1988) Nobel Prize laureate |
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Sixtyplus, look up flaccid insertion, if you can master the technique it will give fantastic results.
Thanks Chris