Worried about my dad.

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Posted 04 Mar 2026 at 15:18

Found out a few days ago that my dad has been diagnosed with PC. He's not really the talk about it type but has just said.. Yea I have PC, they found some in the bones and they going to give me hormone treatment to control it.

Now I know that if it's in the bones it's stage 4, and as he's 70+ with another serious alignment besides this that his outlook isn't great.. But i want to talk about it to him, he must be scared, I know I am, but he's old school and will bury all feelings and probably not want to put worry onto his children.. But he's my dad and I want to support him.

I just so worried and don't know what to do with these feelings, especially as I don't know the full extend of his diagnosis or the outlook etc etc.

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Posted 04 Mar 2026 at 16:02

Fist of all hormone treatment can hold it back for a long while so stay positive. He's really fortunate you're so keen to help. Tell him you're not scared, even if you are! But concerned. Ask if he'll let you go to appointments with him, just as a second pair of ears. See how it goes. Tell him you'd like to support him.

If that's not possible ask if he'll share the letters he gets a copy of to his GP.

Do stay positive .

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Posted 04 Mar 2026 at 21:52

It's wonderful you are so supportive. I'm sure that will have a huge impact on your father. The more you can find out about the details, the more you can seek advice and help him get the best possible treatments. Hope for the best and wishing strength to you and your family.

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Posted 24 Apr 2026 at 21:17

Tell your father my story and be positive around him. Make him laugh when you can.

This is my story.

I have stage 4 prostate cancer with gelson score at 9. Metasis to the bones, lungs and lymph nodes. 16 years ago I was diagnosed with this disease and was told they can not operate and the treatments they have was medical. I was on a Lupron shot and Zometa every 3 months. 2 years ago I'm on the same treatment every 6 months.

Side effects are not a problem for me and my spouse. With the Lupron shutting down the testosteron, sex is no longer part of our life. I'm 82 years old and have some back pain that I relieve with Tylenol.

I try to eat organic with blue berries, black berries and ras berries with greek yougert along with oatmeal every morning. I eat chicken, hamburger and bacon once in awhile for dinner with vegatables, potatoes, salad, avacados and rice. Potato chips and pretzels occasionally.

Use to walk a lot but no more as my knees and back limit my strength.

I'm good for a trip to the market, gas station and getting the car washed.

I keep busy with sports on tv and other shows. I have a YouTube channel that I post to showing Hot Rods and Custom Cars. Keeps me busy.

I retired from being professional musician when I was given the prostate diagnosis.

I was told by a very kind nurse that my life expectancy could not be determined becasue most prostate cance patients die from something else. Told me that try to be positive in everything you do, get some sun outdoors and keep living your life. My spouse is my caretaker that keeps me inline.

16 years now and I'm still here. I had a close friend that came down with the same thing I have and passed away after 5 years. Everyone responds differently according to my Oncologist to the drugs they perscribe. I have another Dr that told me he was living with the same thing for 19 years.

When first diagnosed I was reading on the internet that life span for me was about 4 years. That didn't happen. So live your life, listen to your Dr's, try to eat healthy but don't give up the things you like. You and you father are on a journey at this time in your life so be good to those feel sorry for you father and laugh with him whenever you can. Even corny jokes work.

All the best on you and your father's journey,

Sam

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Posted 25 Apr 2026 at 07:30

Hi, Andy.

Welcome to the forum, mate.

As others have said it is heart warming to see that you are doing your best to help your dad.

My dad had stage four prostate cancer. It had metastasised to his bones. He was diagnosed in his late seventies. He was treated with hormone injections.

He lived until his was nearly ninety. For the vast majority of that time his quality of life was relatively good.

Unfortunately, like most things with this disease, there are no guarantees how people will respond to treatments. I'd just continue to be the caring and supportive son you are, and let him know how much you love him.

Best of luck to you both.

Edited by member 25 Apr 2026 at 07:36 | Reason: Typo

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