Hi Bilmant
I understand your predicament. I was in a similar situation after my prostatectomy over 15 years ago. I had nerve sparing surgery but suffer from ED and arousal climacturia (urine leakage when sexually excited and at orgasm!). We were determined to re-establish our sex life but did not know how, neither did we get any help from the medical profession, except my consultant arranged for my GP to prescribe a VED (SomaErect). We decided that I didn't want any 'chemical' or intrusive solutions, including injections or implants. So a VED was the only option. We have been using VEDs for the past fifteen years very successfully, but initially it was a great challenge, both for creating a usable erection for penetrative sex and how to incorporate them in a love making scenario.
I think it is a matter of horses for courses - Adrian56 has great success with injections and Francij 1 also but he finds finds vacuum pumps intrusive and barbaric - I think it is a great invention because it is a natural replacement for how a penis achieves an erection - blood is pumped into the penis when you are excited - and that is what a VED does by creating a vacuum whenever you wish. It also allows you to control the size of your erections. Of course a VED is probably the most difficult option to master.
In the autumn of our lives our intimate relationships is probably better than it would have been - without a VED - had I not had prostate cancer, not that I wish anybody that catastrophe.
If anyone wishes to opt for a VED-solution be warned that it requires a great deal of patience, perseverance and practice. Also certain amount of discomfort has to be tolerated - no pain no gain!
I have recorded a training video showing how to use a VED both for rehabilitation and for creating a strong and reliable erection lasting for 30 minutes, with constricting rings placed at the base of the penis, suitable for penetrative sex. Some members have found my video helpful.
If you email ([email protected]) me I will be happy to send you a copy of the video which may help you.
Also the following link describes how we managed to re-establish our sex life with unexpected benefits:
https://community.prostatecanceruk.org/posts/t28948-Re-establishing-Sex-Life
My apologies to members who have read my posts before, I know I sound like a salesman for VEDs!
Edited by member 10 Apr 2026 at 14:57
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