OMGosh so I don’t get many notifications these days so I was a bit surprised when checking my emails to find this
i am a great believer in fate as it’s almost a year to the day since my last post and here I am back on the train !
So 3 years since Trevor left us , 4 in Nov and what are we up to , so buckle up guys here we go .
Firstly I’m thinking I need to change that avatar 😂, secondly I’m still known as the Cocker Lady ( sorry Lyn was that your Tea gone again ) 😂 for all newbies that’s cocker Spaniels ie dogs 🐕 , not nearly as much fun as the first connotation.
After 12 long and very hard years I have been successful in gaining planning permission so I can now relocate back home to Essex with my family and friends, I can’t express enough how tough it’s been here cut of from my support network . But Hey Ho Silver I’m Essex bound in a few months 🤗.
Ive been a bit reflective over the last few weeks as the move draws closer and what do you know up you all pop ,
The forum was my go to place for 5 years and I don’t think anyone realised how important it was to me , I don’t think I realised in the beginning, I really did think it was going to be a short pop in get some advice , you know the kind of thing ! OH by the way my husband has a psa of 13000 does anyone think this could be serious.
What do you know yep it was seriously serious, Trevor himself never wanted to join and that was ok he dealt with his cancer in his way after all it was his cancer .
I on the other hand needed knowledge, information we all deal with things in different ways , I started reading posts from other members , posts that touched my soul so many men who are now long gone but who left an inspirational legacy on the forum ( I’ll leave Lyn to name them ) .
So in those early days amidst all of the fear and panic I was reading those posts which were so brilliantly written and they had a strange calming affect on me even though none where good outcomes so not experiences of miracle cures , I had a calmness and a kind of acceptance although I don’t think that is really achieved until much later .
Thats when I decided for a few reasons the first reason being totally selfish that I needed to document Trevor’s journey ( totally selfish ) that’s what I needed but the second reason was to maybe give back what the forum had helped me with and that was a coping mechanism.
And OH boy did it help me cope , the only way I could write my posts was from the heart , and I needed it to be with my personality so nothing fake a tell it how it is with my sense of humour, maybe not everyone’s taste but I wanted to chart Trevor’s journey and leave something written a warts and all description .
All of time I was posting I was very aware of how my posts could potentially affect others , that brings me to my 3rd reason for documenting everything, I wanted to share that it’s ok to be up , it’s ok to be down and all of those feelings in between .
I never thought that 3 plus years on that people would still be reading and finding comfort in our story .
Much love to everyone xxx
Edited by member 07 Jul 2021 at 19:58
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