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Posted 09 Sep 2017 at 23:07

Dad can't swallow now.He is almost comatose.The gurgling from the secretions in his chest is difficult to hear.We have all visited him now and the nurses are being fantastic with him and us.
Goodnight for now and love to all on here Paula xx

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Posted 10 Sep 2017 at 04:22

Hi Chris yes it is unpleasant however I consider it a privilege to sit with Dad.This is what he wanted to prevent for Mum to witness him like this...... obviously way beyond his control.All we can do is be there.xxx

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Posted 10 Sep 2017 at 06:31

It is a privilege Paula , utterly ! Sitting and holding someone's hand talking softly is their only last feint grip on life but gives them so much reassurance judging by their grip. Thinking of you daily x

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Posted 10 Sep 2017 at 08:49

Paula

Your last couple of posts have brought back memories of my Mum's passing. I remember telling Mum it was time to let go. Thinking of you and take care of yourself.

Thanks Chris

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 10:40

Dear Paula, I am glad you feel it is a privilege to be with your dad at this bittersweet time. I understand, and feel sure your dad will feel reassured too. Take care of you, too, xx

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 12:43

My darling Dad just died.I am relieved his suffering is over and couldn't stay for the last few hours of unpleasantness.
I can't thank you all enough for your understanding over the years and sharing the good times which there have been many at least Mum was there with him when he died.
I have no experience of how I will feel this coming week xx Paula xx

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 12:47

Hello Paula,

I'm sorry to hear your sad news, I hope and pray that you will find peace in the coming days.

Best wishes,

Arthur

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 14:05

So sad for you and your family Paula but as you say, he is now out of pain.

How will you feel in the coming weeks and months?
That's a very individual feel but I am sure will swing through relief, guilt, pain, the whole gamut of emotions I expect.

What you need to remember is that however you feel, it is normal for you at that time.

It's hard to believe at the moment that life will revert to "normal" and that the pain will ease, but it will.

Just try and hang onto thoughts of the good times, the laughter and the joy you all shared. Your mum will need you now as there will be much to get through.

You are in my thoughts Paula X

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 14:47

So sad to read this Paula, my heart goes out to you and your family.

Thinking of you.

BFN

Julie X

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 18:51

My sympathies for you and your family. I have followed your posts. Your lovely dad had a wonderful daughter. May he rest in peace.
Leila

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 20:34

Hi I have read your posts. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. My husband was diagnosed with Small Cell of Prostate February 2016 and given 1-2 years to live. We are now on the countdown. Doctor ordered hospice at home to start this week. I am at such a loss since there is very little information for this horrible disease. I wish i knew what to expect at this point. My sympathies...XOXOXO

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 20:52

Thoughts are with you and your family ,remember the good times .
Best wishes
Debby

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 21:09

So sorry to read your news - you are all in my thoughts in the coming weeks and months, especially your mum.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 21:46

Dear Paula , so sad for you all and your loss. Sending strength for the weeks ahead. I've read every one of your posts and can just imagine what a lovely , caring , strong devoted person you are. I just know your dad must have loved you so dearly and been so proud of you. Hope you can find that extra inch to be there for mum. It's been so brave of you to share. Please take care of yourself xx

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Posted 11 Sep 2017 at 23:16

Paula

Please accept my sincere condolences. Thinking of you all at this difficult time.

Thanks Chris

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Posted 12 Sep 2017 at 07:43

Paula,

I'm so sorry.

David

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Posted 12 Sep 2017 at 10:28

So sorry to hear, Paula. I am relieved to hear your mum was with him, and I hope this helps her going forward. Your emotions will probably swing in all directions, but in time I hope your memories become more comfortable.

Take care of you, emotionally you must be exhausted. We carry on, but then it all catches up on us so you need to be gentle with yourself.

Janet, x

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Posted 12 Sep 2017 at 22:41

So sorry to read of your loss Paula. I have followed your situation for a few years now and know how much you loved your dad, I am sure he knew it too.my thoughts are with you and all your family at this sad time.

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Posted 12 Sep 2017 at 23:49

So sorry to hear of your loss Paula, and of the tough time that you have all been through. As others have said, you will no doubt be overwhelmed by many different emotions over the coming months - and perhaps will feel that you should be dealing with things 'better', or getting over your loss. The best bit of advice I had was just to let it be. Whatever you are feeling or not feeling is ok. Give yourself space and time to grieve.

Take care of yourself.

Hugs

Ruth xxx

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Posted 13 Sep 2017 at 08:32

Thank you all.Dad has had so many genuine tributes to him form the rugby club and our family has too it has been touching.All saying what a great man he was and a true gentleman.
I helped Mum choose some lovely clothes for the funeral.
It didn't sink in with me then I saw pictures of when he was a well man and I found that emotional.
Our task is to look after Mum who has lost her best friend of 53 years.
Dad was a keen gardener so we will make the front garden pristine for his final journey as he hasn't been home for 7 weeks.
I hope my 5 year lost posts will inspire someone who is diagnosed with this rare type.Dad had adenocarcinoma to along with the small cell.
I hope I haven't upset anyone with my frank posts either.:(
Love to you all Paula xxxx

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