Regaining Erections

It's a tight fit!

I've had 2 great weekends.  The day after my OH retired, we went to Sweden to stay with my younger daughter's boyfriend's mother and had a fabulous time.

Today I finished 5/129 in my club's comp.  Feeling pretty pleased with myself!

Edited by member 10 May 2015 at 22:50  | Reason: Not specified

I tried a different approach today. After I came home from golf, having eaten nothing since breakfast, I took a sidenafil tablet, had a shower, and we engaged in some fun.

I still can't manage enough of a stir for intercourse, but the most embarrassing thing is the uncontrolable although relatively small amount of leakage that occurs. My OH, and I can understand why, finds it a real turn off, although if things keep improving, maybe we'll accomplish something more worthwhile, wearing a condom.

I am finding it harder to climax as well, so my OH has suggested the shower in the morning again, especially as there was a significant response with no tablet the last time. The other advantage is, of course, we'd both be less aware of unwanted leakages.

We'll keep trying - we're only just over a year post op and in a good place.

Paul

Can't speak for everyone else, or anyone else as we all seem to make a different recovery, and with different issues to overcome, but regarding the involuntary "squirtlet", referred to above, when you orgasm, in my experience this may not happen every time or any time, and if it is happening currently, it may stop.

Progress re urinary incontinence was slow but steady and generally for the better. For example, for some time post op when I woke up I would need to go for a wee fairly promptly. This then became not so urgent and I could wake up and lie in bed awhile. If I got up I would need a wee promptly, then this need too abated and I could walk about or make a coffee. Before I engaged in any sexual activity I would need a wee, not so now, although I do usually go before JIC, but having gone I manage without leaking, and can achieve an orgasm without a "squirtlet" usually.

The point is the recovery is slower than it is for some, quicker for others. The important thing to focus on is the fact that there is improvement and with that there is hope.

atb

dave

As I understand it you are making progress? The final control will probably come when having standing sex last, as that is when gravity rules and your sub-bliminal control kicks in, that last natural ability to not wee that you had from around the age of 2, 3, 4, whenever you were nappy free.

In the meantime make do with intercourse while prone or on your back. Or, tense up when standing. You may not be able to relax and orgasm when tense but you should be able to keep leaks at bay.

Just keep trying, and don't give up hope.

dave

Is there any other way???????

Edited by member 03 Jul 2015 at 21:13  | Reason: Not specified

I would be interested in other peoples experience with a vacuum (penile) pump. Ive been using one every day for two weeks, which is now 4 months after prostatectomy. No sign of any hardness, which I would define as an erection, but there is an increase in size in a floppy penis with increased redness, which I would think is increased blood flow. Should I keep on going with this or give up?. Im also taking 10mg cialis twice a week. My consultant says it is all necessary to prevent damage to the penile tissue. No sign of rising to the occasion any time

PS - if I were you, I would be cutting the Cialis in half and taking a half tablet every two days OR asking for the once-a-day version of Cialis which comes in 2.5mg or 5mg versions

No, it doesn't leave you with any hardness when you release the vacuum - that isn't how it works. Once you are getting erections in the tube, then you need to play about with the constriction rings to find which one is tight enough to hold the blood in place. If the ring is too slack, the blood seeps back out of the penis into your body. If the ring isn't close enough to your body, the blood seeps out. Men who use a vacuum pump to enable penetrative sex do so with the constriction rings in position. Sometimes a combination of two rings is needed.

It is important not to have the rings on for more than 20-30 minutes as you are in effect placing a tourniquet on your old man :-0

Yep - repeating as often as you can. Ideally, you will do this in the morning when you wake, sometime during the day and then in the evening / bedtime. This goes some way towards replicating the numerous erections that you would have had each day prior to your op

Thanks as well Lyn -- Ive just read all this with great interest and appreciated it all without asking it myself later . But its at least 4 weeks down the road for me yet I suppose . I understand the length loss but was kinda hoping the girth thing wouldn't be compromised ( forgive me im an engineer and understand fluid dynamics ) . Anyway no rush , feel like ive been hit by a train today and god the bruising . Best luck SGH

I was prescriped a Rapport premier pump. I only use it to encourage blood supply. I hate the tightness of the rings - maybe others cope better.

I have noticed a slight increase in length recently - and boy do I need it!!!!

Paul

Desperately want to "get going " , but am gonna leave it till the 6 wks review as advised. After that my pump-wrist will be thicker than Arnies

No, no firmness near the body which makes it hard to point in the right direction. But a guiding hand and the right position works wonders .....

All this talk got me trying this morning . I hope you don't mind me using your post Paul . Im not sure of the etiquette ! I have a pump that is great which I used for ED when I had to go on Testosterone replacement therapy . Wow it worked a treat haha , but yes trying to keep that erection with the rings was a nightmare .
Im EXACTLY 3 weeks post op and have had 2 small tries with the pump ( not wanting to hurt myself ) but absolutely nothing at all which is disheartening . Just too soon or still too bruised etc , or genuine reason for concern . He looks absolutely pre-op but is cold all the time and pinker ( less blood flow ) . Im keeping him warm in tight pants with pad liner .
The pump easily sucks up flesh in the area , but however gently steadily I take it , he just will NOT engorge at all or stand up . Making me sad . I know none of you are doctors , but should I just leave it till the 6 weeks review
Chris

Hi,

I'm on hormone therapy for another 18 months.  When I started HT last year I was so concerned about dealing with the cancer that the fact that I lost the ability to have an erection within several days didn't bother me too much.  I lost my libido so it made things easier to accept.

Only problem is now is that now things are far more settled with my cancer, even though I don't have any desire to have sex, I feel really sad that I can't.  I really miss the fun I had.  I always found it was a great way of relieving stress too.

I have been in a really low mood in recent weeks and things like this make me feel even worse.  I wish I could do it again but I really don't think anything would help me.

Steve

Edited by member 07 Jul 2015 at 13:30  | Reason: Not specified

You mean to your wife being 170 miles away. Probably the garlic.