An eminent Australian doctor (Ian Roos) sadly passed away this morning 16 years after being dx with aggressive PCa. I saw one of his quotes and personally thought it was very apt
"the cancer patient can share the experience, not the cancer. Yet it is now part of their being. It is not their partner's cancer, but it affects their partner. It is not their family's cancer, but it affects their family. It is not their friends' cancer, yet their friends grieve for the challenge to longevity that it presents. It is the patient’s and the patient is the one who has to negotiate meaning from it and an identity that incorporates it".