No news is good news?

Hello Judi

My husband is very much like yours and doesn't like to make a fuss by chasing things up. He also takes the view that if anything was wrong you would be contacted.

There is always the possibility that you have been overlooked and his results lost in the ether somewhere.

There is never any harm in doing a follow up call to the consultant's secretary to ask for more information. Providing such information  is what she is paid to do. Do you/did you get a designated nurse when your husband was first diagnosed. Is it possible to ask them to follow it up.

I personally would not be happy to leave it along the lines not wanting to bother anyone. I'd want that reassurance

Edited by member 07 May 2015 at 06:30  | Reason: Not specified

Judi, probably not what you want to read but I wonder if your husband knows exactly what the situation is and is choosing not to tell you everything? If the nurse is usually excellent but is suddenly not responding, your OH may have specified that he does not want you to be told.

I think before you contact the hospital again, you might perhaps be able to have a frank conversation with him and ask if he knows whether the nurse is avoiding calling you.

Has he discussed with you what treatment they are giving him? Is he still on hormones? Has he mentioned whether they discussed chemo or any of the newer drugs? If not, ask him. He can't be forced to tell you but some of this will have been discussed with him when it was found in his lung, not just at the most recent appointment when the results were 'not available'. Sorry if I am completely wrong but this just does not ring true at the moment.

Lyn may have a point so discuss with your husband first - developments obviously impact on you too and could affect both your future plans. If he genuinely is still waiting results, I would suggest an enquiry be made. I know from my own experience and that of some others that not only are notes lost but information is not always passed on to the patient whether this is good or bad.