Regaining Erections

If Sildenafil has had no effect, check that you are taking it correctly. You should also ask to try Muse, Levitra and Cialis (not all at the same time though) and if they fail, consider Caverject.

As you are aware, John regained natural erections of sorts between years 2 and 3 and the signs of recovery were simply having treatments that worked. Sadly, if none of the treatments work then the chance of natural erections coming back is very slim. However, you are not at that stage yet and have lots of treatments still to try :-)

Talking to a guy with several years experience with the pump last week he suggested using two larger rings at the same time rather than going smaller, his experience was that the erection lasted longer. I have been advised not to use the pump for a while until the stricture gets sorted. The thought of using muse did not appeal to me but doing ISC every other day has changed my outlook.

Good luck

Thanks Chris

Paul

Sorry "intermittent self catheterisation" in my case inserting a pipe up your penis and into the bladder every other day to keep the bladder neck open.

Thanks Chris

SF2 

I don't know how long you have been married, you do.  I don't know how long you are likely to stay married, neither do you.  Whether your relationship was running smoothly or not prior to your medical issues, I don't know?  

IIWM in your situation, I would ensure that I do all I can to make sure I achieve the best recovery possible, as you never know when you might need it?  My situation was similar to yours, partner not interested at all in me, or my sexual recovery.  I decided that regardless of her lack of interest I would do all I could to regain as much function as possible because we none of us know how life will turn out.  Scroll forward 18 moths and she and I are no longer together.  I know that when I meet another lady I will be able to enjoy a full natural relationship.  If I had not bothered trying and playing and manipulating and pumping etc etc all these last 18 months, I don't know what state of useability my bits would be in.  As it is, because I worked at it, I am able to enjoy intercourse with orgasm again.  It is brilliant.  Like being a kid and discovering sex all over again. 

Have you considered asking her to go to Relate with you?  Is she getting help from her GP regarding the menopause?  HT replacement help?

It is a miserable situation to be living through, I can appreciate how you are feeling.  You need to look after YOU.

ATB

Dave

Six foot two,

I'm 6 months post op, I'm in similar postition, when I was diagnosed my main concern was survival, the rest was and is secondary, they tell me can take upto a few years to regain function, if at all, I'm not happy with that,

but I accept the deck of cards I've been dealt....there are worse hands out there, much worse, many of us read Bazza's recent post the road to uncertain certantity, (sorry i know its wrong but cant figure it out) I thought it was brilliant and took a lot of courage to write, I also think your probably having an off day ...we all do....its still early days hang on in there !

Regarding your Cialis, I went to see my new GP today.  We discussed my past PC history and my current prescriptions. My new GP was surprised to learn that I have been on 5mg Cialis/Tdalafil a day since about June 2013, and that I get 8 x 50mg Viagra/Sildenafil every 28 days.  

His view was that Cialis is known as a "weekend" drug, and it does much the same as the Viagra.  This did concern me, and I wondered if he would put me on what may normally be prescribed?  Anyway, I explained the progress I had made and how I was relatively slow in my recovery, and what had been prescribed was obviously working for me, goodness only knows where I might be if I was on any less, and he agreed to keep my meds as they have been for the last 18 months.  

Might it be worth mentioning to your GP that a different meds regime has worked for someone you are aware of, and would they consider that as an option?  

Dave

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Oh dear :-#

I love the 'we'! Sean is lucky to have a partner show that much interest. Still - i won't complain too much. There's plenty on here that are in a far worse place.

Paul

Rehab and recovery is a lonely and miserable endeavour if you are working at it alone. But can work! ;-)

The fact that there is a "we" in their working at it is lovely to read.

SF2, don't give up. You had a moment before Christmas with your good lady? Work at having some more. More lingerie*, more perfume, more oysters, more wandering about naked! Turn off the internet if she is an addict. :-0 Oh the angst......

Dave

* lingerie for her, but if it works for you as well?

A few weeks since my last update. Unfortunately, my OH has had a chest infection, and was off work for a while, and even though she is back now, is nowhere near 100%.

Anyway, I had my first 100 mg sildenafil tablet in a while on Saturday. Sadly, a long coughing fit as soon as she got into bed put paid to any passion, so I was unable to find if there was any progress.

There are, however considerable side effects. I slept poorly feeling hot, I am left feeling head achy, and the effects lasted 24 hours.

One consolation, though. I played a really good game of golf on Sunday morning, which my OH says that was because no nooky the night before makes you play more aggressively.

I have been using the pump without the ring to exercise the old man, but although I sometimes feel there are stirrings down under, there is no sign of anything happening naturally.  I am now 10 months post op.

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Thanks for the replies. Mo - I'm glad you enjoy my humour. In fact to play golf well, you have to be relaxed, smooth of swing and in control. My OH is trying to compare golf to football or rugby, where a different mind set is needed!

I am not overly worried about progress at the moment. Dave - you suggested using my hands - the way my OH was coughing continuously, there was no way I could have even concentrated on that. In regards of which you'd prefer, let me put it like this. A good bonk would probably be over, even with foreplay in 30 minutes. A game of golf in the winter lasts 3 hours, and 4 in the summer, as we play even more holes.

I used the pump with a ring on my own this morning, but I can't get a full erection as I can without a ring. Maybe I was using a ring size too small, as it was also holding the foreskin back, so it wasn't particularly successful. I'll try a larger size next time.

Paul

30 minutes!!!! Wow - respect.

Why are you bothering with the rings on your own?

If it loses firmness immediately then likely to be your technique in breaking the vacuum & transferring the rings over. If it droops slowly try combinations of two rings.

Another tablet yesterday, and a hand job from the OH brought about the best results yet, I'd say over 50%, so things are definitely on the up! Unfortunately, neither foreplay or any mental stimulation hasn't any kind of effect on the old man as of yet.

I can't say I enjoy waking up with a headache resulting from the sildenafil, but it is bearable. I have found recent orgasms to be disappointing, too. They've been nowhere near as strong as some experienced last year.

I'm not getting too downhearted, though. I have been playing some pretty decent golf this year, so am looking forward to the new summer season. We have to count our blessingd. A member, 1 year younger than myself, died on the course last Sunday, and even though it was on the last hole, the new defibrillator could not help save him. The stories on here make me even more determined to enjoy life whilst I still have the health to do so!

Hi sf2, ask the GP or ED nurse for a prescription for Levitra - it works slightly differently to Viagra and may just be the kick start you need. Or maybe you need to buy some of those extra TV channels that need a PIN number to whet your appetite 🙈
Tablets won't work if you are not feeling like a sexy beast!

I am so sorry you are having such a troubling time. It does sound like some of your issues may be made worse by an inability to communicate comfortably and with a degree of confidence with your OH, or worse still a lack of some concern on her part for what could be at stake.

It might be that she is a little scared or inhibited or that she has just lost her own desire for 9ne reason or another, we women are complex creatures!

Maybe once she has retired and can probably relax with more time on her hands you will be able to start romancing her once again and you can start to work through this as a couple.

Best wishes

Xx

Mo

Mo

She's never had a high sex drive, and she is very inhibited. She has never been interested in anything the slightest bit kinky, which I have found frustrating but learned to accept. To be fair, I had a very innocent upbringing, and was a very shy teenager, so didn't get up to things many youngsters do!!

I don't beat myself up about it as I have many things in my life to be grateful for. There are many people in this world who would love to be in my position - good home, fantastic kids, 3 of our parents still alive and doing better than anyone could reasonably expect, financially secure, and am able to spend a lot of time doing things that bring great pleasure such as the theatre and concerts. (We love the Royal Exchange and Bridgewater Hall.)

I have my golf on top of that, so I have nothing to let me feel down too much.

My posts really are there to help others in a similar position. If I have the confidence to post my experiences and they help anyone to understand the consequences and emotional impact of PCa, ( I try to be as positive as I can), then it is worthwhile.

Paul