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Regaining Erections

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Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 18:02

If you do it right, you should be able to get back to almost normal size erect - maybe an inch or so shorter and a little smaller in girth than you were before

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

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Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 18:27

Thanks as well Lyn -- Ive just read all this with great interest and appreciated it all without asking it myself later . But its at least 4 weeks down the road for me yet I suppose . I understand the length loss but was kinda hoping the girth thing wouldn't be compromised ( forgive me im an engineer and understand fluid dynamics ) . Anyway no rush , feel like ive been hit by a train today and god the bruising . Best luck SGH

User
Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 21:41

Maintaining girth depends on how soon after treatment you can get the fella engorged - the longer it is flaccid the less likely you are to keep the spongy tissue healthy - and unfortunately, the cells of spongy tissue do not repair. So atrophy - aka 'use it or lose it' - affects girth as well as length.

Get stimulating Chris :-)

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 21:46

I was prescriped a Rapport premier pump. I only use it to encourage blood supply. I hate the tightness of the rings - maybe others cope better.

I have noticed a slight increase in length recently - and boy do I need it!!!!

Paul

Stay Calm And Carry On.
User
Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 21:48

SGHK, ypu might find this report from another Soma user helpful - he obviously found the instructions provided with the pump less than satisfactory!

http://rpcsg.org.uk/reading/follow-up/vacuum.pdf

Edited by member 06 Jul 2015 at 21:49  | Reason: Not specified

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 22:05

Desperately want to "get going " , but am gonna leave it till the 6 wks review as advised. After that my pump-wrist will be thicker than Arnies

User
Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 22:53

lyn

You mean these pumps come with instructions !!, being male I did not read the instructions which may explain why I got a testicle inside the ring and finished up with the OH cutting the ring off with a very steady hand and a pair of scissors.

Good tip about the gel inside the tube, it stops the penis sticking to the side. I found not rushing and taking a relaxed approach got the best results, I pump and release quite a few times pausing when engorged then release and pump up again, our pump has a release button.  I can achieve full size erections but sadly there is no strength were the penis meets the body. I never had a problem with the pubic hair, just kept the tube firmly against the body until the vacuum caused the seal.

Thanks Chris 

 

 

User
Posted 06 Jul 2015 at 23:11

No, no firmness near the body which makes it hard to point in the right direction. But a guiding hand and the right position works wonders .....

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 01:02
I've not had any luck with any strength of pills.None work for me.However the pump I've had post 7 months and worked right away for me.I do still lose the hardness and tend to rush myself so I can to my aim.I now use two rings and seem to be lasting longer and to be honest I'm still the same size and thickness .I'm now in my 13th month and still no signs of anything happening by them self's.
User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 10:40

All this talk got me trying this morning . I hope you don't mind me using your post Paul . Im not sure of the etiquette ! I have a pump that is great which I used for ED when I had to go on Testosterone replacement therapy . Wow it worked a treat haha , but yes trying to keep that erection with the rings was a nightmare .
Im EXACTLY 3 weeks post op and have had 2 small tries with the pump ( not wanting to hurt myself ) but absolutely nothing at all which is disheartening . Just too soon or still too bruised etc , or genuine reason for concern . He looks absolutely pre-op but is cold all the time and pinker ( less blood flow ) . Im keeping him warm in tight pants with pad liner .
The pump easily sucks up flesh in the area , but however gently steadily I take it , he just will NOT engorge at all or stand up . Making me sad . I know none of you are doctors , but should I just leave it till the 6 weeks review
Chris

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 11:15
Omg.can't believe your using a pump so early after surgery. I had to wait 7 months before they would even consider me.To be honest I would ask your doctor before you use again.You be careful
User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 11:19
I agree.Think Sean was 8 weeks post op.
User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 11:35
Chris, I'm sure Paul won't mind you posting on his thread. I also know how keen you are to get your kit fully operational pronto, however you may be rushing things using the pump so soon and I would hate you to cause yourself any harm. I believe that during surgery bits have to be physically cut and re-attached like your urethra and I would think 6 weeks recovery for that alone sounds about the norm.Hopefully one of the guys or Lyn will come back to you on that so you can either do other things or carry on as is... not a subject I know anything much about so I hope someone pops up soon (no pun intended there).

I would have thought just some gentle stimulation would be less risky and something you and El can both be involved in.

As there are several men out there in early recovery and ladies trying to help who may need to compare notes (so to speak) maybe Paul would be happy for this to be the common link.

Best wishes

Xx

Mo

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 11:37
In the time it took for me to post you have two answers confirming my worries for you.

Xxx

Mo

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 11:39

Thanks . I totally get your point guys . I have been really really gentle I promise , but nobody has really offered advice professionally at the hospital . Me rushing . i'll stop and stick to smiling at him and patting him on the head occasionally.
Elaine twitches awfully in her sleep , so maybe if I just leave her hand on him ................;-))

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 11:53

Hi,

I'm on hormone therapy for another 18 months.  When I started HT last year I was so concerned about dealing with the cancer that the fact that I lost the ability to have an erection within several days didn't bother me too much.  I lost my libido so it made things easier to accept.

Only problem is now is that now things are far more settled with my cancer, even though I don't have any desire to have sex, I feel really sad that I can't.  I really miss the fun I had.  I always found it was a great way of relieving stress too.

I have been in a really low mood in recent weeks and things like this make me feel even worse.  I wish I could do it again but I really don't think anything would help me.

Steve

Edited by member 07 Jul 2015 at 13:30  | Reason: Not specified

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 21:04

Intriguing subject!, I tried the most flexible ring and found I could mount it on the Soma C cylinder, and get it on the penis very quickly. There is certainly more firmness there than without the ring, whether it quite could be described as an erection, Im not sure; depends on definition I guess. The user who posted a leaflet describing someone's use of the Soma pump was very helpful. Getting the ring off, is somewhat painful, and I dont think Ill be moving to a harder ring just yet.Lyn above suggests I should be getting as many erections per day as before the cancer. Think Ill have to go back to when I was at school, to make that a reasonable number. 

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 21:08

You mean to your wife being 170 miles away. Probably the garlic.

User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 22:23

Chris

You definitely need healing time. Don't worry about erections yet. You should ask for Ciallis at 6 weeks to start the healing process. For me, you also should ask to be assigned an ED nurse to guide and encourage you.

Paul

Stay Calm And Carry On.
User
Posted 07 Jul 2015 at 23:33

SGHK, there is a knack to getting the ring off. You grasp the two flaps or nobbles and pull out to the sides - this allows the blood to escape from the penis which makes the penis small - the ring then slides off easily. This is the other benefit of lubing all the way up the shaft, helps with the sliding off as well as stopping your skin from dragging inside the tube as you pump.

When I referred to the multiple erections, I was thinking of the 'wake up in the morning' one that most men get, and the one in the shower and the lazy lob that occurs when you are watching TV etc etc. A healthy man (who doesn't have PCa induced ED) has an average of 3-5 erections each night while asleep, each lasting for about 30 minutes. That is what you are trying to replicate to keep the spongy tissue healthy.

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

 
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