Can't speak for everyone else, or anyone else as we all seem to make a different recovery, and with different issues to overcome, but regarding the involuntary "squirtlet", referred to above, when you orgasm, in my experience this may not happen every time or any time, and if it is happening currently, it may stop.
Progress re urinary incontinence was slow but steady and generally for the better. For example, for some time post op when I woke up I would need to go for a wee fairly promptly. This then became not so urgent and I could wake up and lie in bed awhile. If I got up I would need a wee promptly, then this need too abated and I could walk about or make a coffee. Before I engaged in any sexual activity I would need a wee, not so now, although I do usually go before JIC, but having gone I manage without leaking, and can achieve an orgasm without a "squirtlet" usually.
The point is the recovery is slower than it is for some, quicker for others. The important thing to focus on is the fact that there is improvement and with that there is hope.
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Hi Dave
The squirts are before orgasm! Not good when it's unexpected, you're standing up and it lands on the bedroom carpet!
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As I understand it you are making progress? The final control will probably come when having standing sex last, as that is when gravity rules and your sub-bliminal control kicks in, that last natural ability to not wee that you had from around the age of 2, 3, 4, whenever you were nappy free.
In the meantime make do with intercourse while prone or on your back. Or, tense up when standing. You may not be able to relax and orgasm when tense but you should be able to keep leaks at bay.
Just keep trying, and don't give up hope.
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Standing sex ?? Come on guys you're showing off now.
Especially if you're six foot two !
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Is there any other way???????
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Glad to be providing a bit of banter on the site, as we all know so well, so much is serious.
If only I were 2f2. Unfortunately, only 5f8 - I did explain once where the name came from - it was a chant to do with my favourite all time Man Utd player.
As for intercourse, if only, not there yet, but hopefully not too long.
Hilary - does Sean have natural erections, or are they aided. I hate the feel of the ring on the pump, so only use it to exercise.
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He has natural ones.We have never used the pump other than to get the circulation going after the op.
He never wakes up with one,but with persuasion there has always been response.Mostly I would say 80%,sometimes more.On one occasion it was just like old times😊They are always useable.Just wish the continence was as good!!
Never mind we have an appointment to see surgeon in july.
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Hilary
Sean is obviously doing well. I hope to be catching him up pretty soon. The incontinence has hardly changed for me in the last few months - only 1 pad per day, dry at night, but some way to go for total control.. At least I get my pads on the NHS.
Paul
PS .On one occasion it was just like old times.
I wish I could remember!
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Hi Paul. I'm post op my first year 27 June. I've tried every pills you can get from doctors or Internet. None have and don't work on me .The only thing that's helps is the vacuum pump but still lose it so have to be qwick .I do get depressed at times and wondered if I'm ever going to get something back with out the pump.Even if the tablets would work would be a real help for my physical well being.mike
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Mike,
You may get more responses to assist you if you start another thread about your issues.
Otherwise your issues are mixed and mired with others?
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Thanks Dave.As new to the site Im not to sure how to start a new thread.
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Michael,
Just go to the top of this page, and you will see "start a conversation" as an option.
Good luck.
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I would be interested in other peoples experience with a vacuum (penile) pump. Ive been using one every day for two weeks, which is now 4 months after prostatectomy. No sign of any hardness, which I would define as an erection, but there is an increase in size in a floppy penis with increased redness, which I would think is increased blood flow. Should I keep on going with this or give up?. Im also taking 10mg cialis twice a week. My consultant says it is all necessary to prevent damage to the penile tissue. No sign of rising to the occasion any time
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I don't think you can be using it correctly - there should be no problem getting engorgement in the tube and the problem then tends to be keeping it engorged once the tube is removed.
There are slight differences depending on which make of pump you have but the general rules are:
- trim your pubic hair as close to the skin as you can
- smear inside of tube AND your skin where the tube meets your pubic bone with plenty of KY jelly or ehatever was provided with the pump (this is to help get a good seal to create the vacuum
- ensure the tube is pressed closely against the skin
- pump a few times and pause to allow the blood to flow in, then pump a few times and pause, pump a few times and pause
- release the vacuum by easing tube end away from your skin and then start again
- ideally you should be doing this 3 times a day with 3 - 5 reps ... it is hard work at first but does get easier with practice
- once you have the technique right, start to set yourself goals - using the Erecaid Esteem, John could only get the tip of his penis to the first E but with practice he made it to the T and then eventually the third E
- once you have the technique and are getting good engorgement in the tube, THEN try using the rings and removing the tube
It is slightly different if you have a different make to the Osbon Erecaid - I think the Farnhurst requires you to use the rings even when practising. Also, if you have the electric model that is much eaier on your wrists than the manual versions.
Let me know which make & model you are using
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PS - if I were you, I would be cutting the Cialis in half and taking a half tablet every two days OR asking for the once-a-day version of Cialis which comes in 2.5mg or 5mg versions
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Device is SomaCorrect XtraTM manual, which I got on an NHS proscription. It is a manual device. I have trimmed my hairs and with the lubricant I easily get a vacuum with several presses of the handle. The penis expands in response, but there is no sign of hardness immediately after releasing the vacuum.
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No, it doesn't leave you with any hardness when you release the vacuum - that isn't how it works. Once you are getting erections in the tube, then you need to play about with the constriction rings to find which one is tight enough to hold the blood in place. If the ring is too slack, the blood seeps back out of the penis into your body. If the ring isn't close enough to your body, the blood seeps out. Men who use a vacuum pump to enable penetrative sex do so with the constriction rings in position. Sometimes a combination of two rings is needed.
It is important not to have the rings on for more than 20-30 minutes as you are in effect placing a tourniquet on your old man :-0
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Oh I see . I must try that. But I guess for therapeutic purposes, I just hold the vacuum for a bit, then repeat.
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Yep - repeating as often as you can. Ideally, you will do this in the morning when you wake, sometime during the day and then in the evening / bedtime. This goes some way towards replicating the numerous erections that you would have had each day prior to your op
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