Today is the First Day of the Rest of my Life

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Posted 17 Apr 2015 at 23:45

Steve,

Bad news Steve, but, at least you earned something to cover the fine or penalty. Could have been just on an errand with no pay coming in?

Maybe take this opportunity to review all your paperwork, insurances, etc?

In the BSOT life for you is actually getting better all the time.

You will overcome Steve, crack on.

dave

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Posted 17 Apr 2015 at 23:48

Something else you could do without, particularly in present financial situation. Might be worth writing to DVLA to see whether being hospitalized at the renewal time and associated stress could be taken in mitigation and fine be cancelled.

Hope you get steady supply of work but don't overdo it. You must put your health first even if for a time you have to be very frugal.

Barry

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Posted 18 Apr 2015 at 01:14

I agree with Barry about your fine Steve. Write a letter outlining your issues and surely some compassion will be shown. I don't know the system in UK but this would very likely succeed in Australia . You could certainly do without this. I was fined $295 the day after Erwell came out of hospital for speeding in an 80 zone when I was sure I was still in the 100 zone. I had no excuses and could not bring myself to add to Erwell's stress so I did not tell him and paid up from my credit card.. Hope things improve for you Steve. Good to see you back in the usual humdrum of life .. Cheers Georgina

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Posted 18 Apr 2015 at 07:48

Definitely write and explain - you may be let off with a warning. Clearly this is the last thing you need at the moment.

Alternatively, can you pay £10 pm in installments? Try anything to ease the financial pain.

Paul

Stay Calm And Carry On.

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Posted 18 Apr 2015 at 08:26

Steve,

Linked to your MOT, have you paid your Road Tax? I assume that is OK otherwise the police check would have picked that up as well as your MOT. Remember that that the Road Tax arrangements have changed and there is now no Tax Disc.

I hope your continue to improve and put all of this behind you.

Alan

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Posted 18 Apr 2015 at 17:49

I hope your continue to improve and put all of this behind you. But agree with you that cancer is the emperor of all maladies and sometime cure for cancer is impossible :((

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Posted 18 Apr 2015 at 19:43

Often if I click on the 'time' of last post on this thread I am directed to a list of websites?

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Posted 18 Apr 2015 at 20:04

Alison,

It seems to happen when the number of messages reach around the 50, 100, 150 posts etc. It corrects itself when it gets a few messages beyond that point.

Steve

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Posted 19 Apr 2015 at 14:16

Hi,

The downside of being back working: fatigue, endless hours processing and stress.

Steve

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Posted 19 Apr 2015 at 18:39

But there is an UPSIDE

you ARE alive

you ARE getting better.

you ARE earning

Be thankful, or if not thankful, at least appreciate how far you have progressed.

atb

dave

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Posted 19 Apr 2015 at 19:09

You're right Dave.

Steve

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Posted 19 Apr 2015 at 20:16

I agree Dave.

After all that you have been through Steve, you can cope with this lot now!

Best wishes

Alison x

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Posted 19 Apr 2015 at 23:23

And how can you falter when you have all of us wiling you on?

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." Soren Kierkegaard

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Posted 20 Apr 2015 at 17:03

You're right, Alison, Lyn and Dave.

I've just got to keep at it. I just feel as if I'm trying to climb a mountain and not getting very far. I have no energy or motivation at the moment. I feel whatever I do, I'll just end up in the same mess.

Steve.

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Posted 20 Apr 2015 at 20:25

Steve

That Mountain you are looking at is a hill no not even a hill a bump. It looks like a mountain to you because of the scale of the battle you are fighting and because you are looking at the top and you want to get there yesterday. That is because you are used to getting results quickly, moving quickly and thinking quickly. Well as of a while ago you have to think differently. Look at the bottom of the mountain and try to see just a bump. You stepped up onto the bump when you went back to work. Now you are resting and taking time to reflect on what an achievement that was. Tomorrow or the next day or next week you will move up a bit more for any reason you like ,another job done, a sunny day, finding a fiver stuffed down the back of the sofa ...anything positive no matter how small it may seem to you.

Remember what your priorities were when you were facing decisions about your PCa, Living first and foremost. You have come such a long way and depsite everything you are getting better every day. So every day when you open your eyes for the first time remember your primary goal LIVING then go out there and make yourself proud.

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Posted 28 Apr 2015 at 21:24

Hi,

My first NHS "Talking Therapies" session takes place tomorrow. I really hope this helps. I'm tired of feeling like this.

Steve

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Posted 28 Apr 2015 at 22:11

Good luck & best wishes for tomorrow Steve

Arthur

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Posted 29 Apr 2015 at 18:48

Hope it went well today Steve and that you got something from it. Best Wishes Sandra

We can't control the winds - but we can adjust our sails

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Posted 29 Apr 2015 at 20:33

Hope you had a better day, you are achieving so much on the big step of starting work again. Keep it going. Kev

Dream like you have forever, live like you only have today Avatar is me doing the 600 mile Camino de Santiago May 2019

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Posted 30 Apr 2015 at 03:16

Hi ,

The downside of working again. Photo processing until 3am, I'll be awake again at 7am to continue processing again to meet a deadline in the morning.

Steve

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