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I've just read it, Phil. I hope the transfusion goes well and that you're soon back at home, mate.🤞

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Nightmare! That is bizarre re- the pins and needles, must be weird. Enjoy the Outer Hebrides, it is absolutely fantastic up there. Those beaches on Harris - Luskentyre, Huishnish, Uig - superb. (Take a nine iron and few golf balls). And you must go to see the standing stones at Calanish.

All the best matey and enjoy,

SpongeBob

Well played T58. Excellent effort for a worthy cause.

Standing order: Alpha Delta Two Eight. (Splice the mainbrace).

Hi,

You can vent as much as you want in here because we do understand how you feel.

I'm sorry but I don't feel qualified to comment on your husband's treatment and other possible options that could be considered. However, there are men on here, and the wives of men, who are in a similar position, who I'm sure will be able to help and advise.

I've responded to your post just to let you know that, even at this unearthly hour, that someone has listened and cares. 

Hi,

I agree with Adrian, vent as much as you need on here. 

Best wishes, 

Kev.

Hi guys,

Although I got the all clear from my biopsy I consider my brush with PCa to be far from over as my older brother has just been diagnosed with stage 4 incurable PCa.  

Even the brief steps I danced to get booted unceremoniously out of my local hospital have changed my whole perspective on life. 

It was my 60th last month, my wife booked us tickets to the Ashes series as I've always wanted to see England in action against the dreaded foe. But it's not in England again until 2027. But she booked for the first game in Perth,  western Australia in November this year!

Old me would have said; it's too far, it's too expensive, it's too soon, yadda,  yadda, yadda...

But new me said f##k it, we're going and we're going to suck every drop of fun out of it we can. 

It doesn't have to be the other side of the world, it doesn't have to be a once in a lifetime thing, it just nees to be for you and yours. 

I was so proud to attend a Barnsley match with my brother and his family yesterday. He and his grandson were match mascots for the game and they had a wonderful time, making memories for us all. I want us to do so much more, subject to his illness, and we will be planning as much as he wants to make things more bearable.

Chatting here has been so beneficial,  but also so hard for me. Reading the heartbreaking, inspiring, frightening and frankly unacceptable experiences of so many good men and their families has been such a shock to me. 

I've got a bottle of Hawkstones lager from Jeremy's pub in the fridge and I'll be listening the T20 before raising a glass to the Red Roses when we beat Scotland this afternoon.  

Anyone else want one while I'm going to the bar?

Mick x

Absolutely agree with you guys . Get out there while you can. Im so glad we got out to visit places when we could.

Since my diagnosis in Jan 2018 we’ve been to Finland, USA 3 times plus the Mississippi cruise (you must do it on an authentic steam powered paddle steamer, and Canada. Plus the shorter haul places like Spain, Prague and Jersey many times. Who knows if wed have done that without my Terminal (incurable) diagnosis.

Mick, going to see the cricket on the Ashes Tour in Perth is going to be Magic. A great trip as well. We went to the Oval in 2011 to see Tandulker get his 100th 100 but it wasn’t to be. Never forget the day as Amy Whinehouse died that day. We had hospitality as well and so lunch and afternoon tea and getting slightly tipsy on the booze …

We’ve never been to Western Australia but we did 5 1/2 weeks doing the rest of Oz. That was back in 2000 and the kids were quite young then. Also been to New Zealand twice. It is so beautiful especially the Southern Glacier part.

Also so sorry to hear about your older brother Mick. Hoping he can find treatment that holds it at bay for a good while.

Kev, We’ve done over half the US States but never Texas and surrounding area. Once you’ve driven for a few days in the US you’ll be well used to it. Driving is a bit more laid back than here.

Thanks for your message Mick, really appreciated it. I can’t reply though, something about me not being a member long enough or posted enough. :( anyhoo. Sorry to hear about your own experiences. My husband has been shouting from the rooftops to his friends and colleagues about getting tested so much so that a colleague has also been diagnosed having had no previous symptoms. I think men should be offered testing like women get mammograms. Hopefully something we will see in the not too distant future.

What I should say as a caveat is that not all the care we have received has been below par. Some lovely nurses and health care professionals. I just feel that when you are being told something so devastating, eye contact and a bit of empathy go a long way as opposed to a blunt delivery that causes any rational thinking to immediately go out of the window. 

Asked hub about a bucket list the other day to be told he doesn’t have one, just wants to spend time with friends and family and get away in the van when we can. I guess some might call it boring, he prefers to refer to it as contentment. How ironic that he says he’s been lucky. I sometimes need to take a leaf out of his book but it’s hard. All the best to all the folk! X

Anyway, that’s my opinion on it, feel free to ask questions.

Good luck with the Vatican, it was rammed solid when we went. Colosseum was good though, and the Trevi fountain is nice around 10pm as there's not many people around and it's lit up at night. 

Just rolled into Amarillo on a long drive from Dallas tonight in a raging thunderstorm. We're into our second week of our road trip and on our second hire car because the first one was losing oil.  My wife's happy, she just bought a pair of leather Cowboy boots which look great. If you ever find yourself in Austin, be sure to watch the Bats. Mexican Freetail Bats come out at sunset in their hundreds of thousands, we watched a constant stream of them fly from under a bridge over Lady Bird Lake for half an hour. I've never seen anything like it in my life. 

Anyway, I won't bore you with all the details so I'll drink my Lone Star beer and see Y'all later.

Kev.

Bloody hell Kev, it sounds absolutely fabulously amazing! Must admit that Yanks aren’t really my thing with their guns and big mouths and all that. Can’t begin what it is like to drive amongst them. But, but I would love to go see the Alamo. John Waye being my hero, well just sitting behind Captain Kirk (Will Shatner) of course! (Thinking back to my old work days I wanted my team to dress up on the Star Trek shirts but the red shirt guy’s didn’t want it, spoil sports) Make sure that you have a nice,preferably boozy and safe trip back home.

 Dare not comment on the football, for fear of jinxing it, suffice to say that if the world stopped turning now then I would bow out with it as an happy bunny. Better still as someone else as beat Liverpool, how dare they, was VAR asleep? 🤔

Live long and Prosper,

Moonheads return,

Spongebob

Not had a 502 for ages, was thinking they were fixed

Hi Spongebob, going to the states wasn't really my cup of tea a year ago. We were flying to Fuerteventura and my Mrs had downloaded a documentary about the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, she really wanted to go and so it was the catalyst of our trip to Texas. I slept on it and the next day I was sold on the idea, the whole thing snowballed from there.

Unfortunately, the Cowboys were playing away to Chicago Bears when we were in Dallas, so we never got to see the Cheerleaders, but we got on a stadium tour which was brilliant, and we did visit their locker room. the stadium is huge! 

Our guide told us that the stadium will be used in the 2026 world cup.

Landed at Heathrow lunchtime, reasonably clear flying over England, was able to see the magic roundabout in Hemel Hempstead and the Tottenham stadium and then Twickenham. 

Hoping Phil is okay.

Cheers all.

Kev.