Originally Posted by: Online Community MemberAsked hub about a bucket list the other day to be told he doesn’t have one, just wants to spend time with friends and family and get away in the van when we can. I guess some might call it boring, he prefers to refer to it as contentment. How ironic that he says he’s been lucky. I sometimes need to take a leaf out of his book but it’s hard. All the best to all the folk! X
I'm Al, I'm 57 and I've got Stage 4 PC as well and have just finished Chemo, still getting the Darolutamide pills and the hormone injections. Chemo was rather dreadful and to be honest if your husband can avoid it, it may be better for his quality of life. I've spent the last 3 months being chronically fatigued, just not wanting to do anything at all. Dragging myself to meet friends and then just sitting in a chair being monosyllabic.
The chemo drug for PC would be Docetaxel. This works by stopping cells from dividing and multiplying. unfortunately it doesn't just target the cancer cells, it affects all cells. Thats why I am immunosuppressed - my white blood cells are not being replaced so there is nothing to fight disease off with and I heal really slowly - I have cat scratches on my hands from weeks ago (Thanks, Gwin, Finn and Artos).
What the Chemo does is stop the cancer cells reproducing, the hormone injections and darolutamide stop the production of testosterone in the first place.
So it may be that what they are trying to do is stopping the cancer from spreading without doing a life changing treatment like Chemotherapy.
My prognosis now is that I should be “free” of cancer for the next couple of years then as it starts to spread again I’ll get Chemo again then another couple of years (shorter this time) then Chemo etc etc. It’s a cycle of vastly reduced cancer then chemo – Some peoples opinion is that it’s the chemo that takes the most out of you and it’s having to go through the chemo several times is the bit that kills you off. Some people elect not to have the chemo and let the cancer spread rather than going through another round of chemo.
As for the bucket list, quite a few people have said to me “are you going round the world Al?”. The short answer is No. I want to spend quality time with my friends and family. Like going to see the leaning Tower of Pisa for the weekend for instance: get parked at the airport, walk through the airport stand in queues, check-in\security\wait for ages, cramped plane with other people’s germs. Faff around at airport, get to hotel exhausted, go to leaning tower, food etc, fly back.
OR organise BBQ or Film night with mates & beer
OR go in van to a pub campground, nice meal, invite friends.
I know which two I’d far prefer to do, use what energy I do have to do nice things. The influencers annoy me, “oh you haven’t lived until you seen the sun come up over Machu Pichu” – well actually it’s nearly a 24 hour journey to get to Machu Pichu – so I’ll stay in the hotel bar, you can do it ๐
Anyway, that’s my opinion on it, feel free to ask questions.